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Laurene
Tue Sep-23-08 08:52 PM
Member since Jul 18th 2005
2835 posts
#1537, "I've just Emailed TC..."
Just saying goodbye to you all. Thank you for the love and support I have gotten over the years - you have made my journey easier.
There are assumptions about me out there that I am struggling to appreciate. There is at least one woman that assumes I'm judgemental and I don't support her views. Whatever. Assume whatever. I need to distance myself from the TC drama.
Someone needs to disable PM's. I think it's a chicken way to say stuff to people - be bold and then stab someone on a PM. classy.
Laurene, Mom to DD27, DD25, DS23, BBG 1/16/05 3 1/2 yrs old
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RE: I've just Emailed TC..., Triplethefun04, Sep 23rd 2008, #1
RE: I've just Emailed TC..., Laurene, Sep 23rd 2008, #5
RE: I've just Emailed TC..., madmolly, Sep 23rd 2008, #2
RE: I've just Emailed TC..., Laurene, Sep 23rd 2008, #4
RE: I've just Emailed TC..., madmolly, Sep 23rd 2008, #9
RE: I've just Emailed TC..., 3D Montana Mama, Sep 23rd 2008, #3
RE: I've just Emailed TC..., madmolly, Sep 23rd 2008, #6
RE: I've just Emailed TC..., Laurene, Sep 23rd 2008, #8
RE: I've just Emailed TC..., Sheller223, Sep 23rd 2008, #10
RE: I've just Emailed TC..., Laurene, Sep 23rd 2008, #11
RE: I've just Emailed TC..., Sheller223, Sep 23rd 2008, #12
RE: I've just Emailed TC..., Laurene, Sep 23rd 2008, #13
RE: I've just Emailed TC..., madmolly, Sep 23rd 2008, #15
RE: I've just Emailed TC..., Laurene, Sep 23rd 2008, #17
RE: I've just Emailed TC..., 3D Montana Mama, Sep 23rd 2008, #14
RE: I've just Emailed TC..., Laurene, Sep 23rd 2008, #7
RE: I've just Emailed TC..., 3petes, Sep 23rd 2008, #16
RE: I've just Emailed TC..., Triplethefun04, Sep 23rd 2008, #18
RE: I've just Emailed TC..., Laurene, Sep 23rd 2008, #19
RE: I've just Emailed TC..., NC_tripmom, Sep 24th 2008, #26
RE: I've just Emailed TC..., Laurene, Sep 24th 2008, #28
RE: I've just Emailed TC..., LolasLadies, Sep 23rd 2008, #20
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RE: I've just Emailed TC..., foreveramom, Sep 23rd 2008, #22
RE: I've just Emailed TC..., PA triplets, Sep 23rd 2008, #23
RE: I've just Emailed TC..., foreveramom, Sep 23rd 2008, #24
RE: I've just Emailed TC..., Triplethefun04, Sep 24th 2008, #29
Triplethefun04
Tue Sep-23-08 08:56 PM
Member since Jul 18th 2005
795 posts
#1538, "RE: I've just Emailed TC..."
In response to Reply # 0
I'm not sure I understand what's going on. But I think people with different views can coexist on here, can't they? I'm not defending one or the other.
I like this new area of TC and I'm sorry that you feel like this.
I like you. I don't care what sites you go to or not go to. It doesn't bother me that you don't like the site I frequent. No judgements here.
Stick around and let's get through these crazy preschool years together.
Michelle
Tyler 17 1/2 years!!
Steph 15 1/2 years!!
Ayden, Ryley & Dylan 3 1/2 years!!
http://triplethefunplus2.blogspot.com/
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Laurene
Tue Sep-23-08 09:06 PM
Member since Jul 18th 2005
2835 posts
#1542, "RE: I've just Emailed TC..."
In response to Reply # 1
I appreciate that Michelle - you helped me alot when I was pregnant and I will miss hearing about your updates. take care, maybe we will meet on another site someday.
Laurene, Mom to DD27, DD25, DS23, BBG 1/16/05 3 1/2 yrs old
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madmolly
Tue Sep-23-08 08:58 PM
Member since Oct 07th 2005
2293 posts
#1539, "RE: I've just Emailed TC..."
In response to Reply # 0
I JUST POSTED THE WHOLE FREAKING PM!!!! You may say many things about me, but chicken I am not. I only sent you one PM and I THOUGHT I WAS BEING NICE!!! For goodness sake, can I apologize any more???? Why is it not judgemental of you to assume that I was being ill-spirited and not see my PM with the spirit and intent in which it was written????
I said I was sorry. I said I was wrong. I clearly misread the situation...uh, clearly. I was attempting to acknowledge the elephant in the room (please don't take that to mean that I am calling you an elephant..I AM NOT!!!!) so that as a new group we could move passed it. I was attempting to avoid this landmine that I apparently jumped into with both feet!!! I can't win for losing and I still can't figure out how I could have so greatly offended you!!!
Lea
BGG 28.3 weekers
http://mccarthymayhem.blogspot.com/
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Laurene
Tue Sep-23-08 09:05 PM
Member since Jul 18th 2005
2835 posts
#1541, "RE: I've just Emailed TC..."
In response to Reply # 2
Not that I owe you an explanation as you started this. I said I was the only one not posting somewhere else and you made all kinds of unpleasant assumptions about me. You don't know me. You sent me a PM telling me that I had decided people were undesirable....where you got your information from is none of my business. But...I also don't need to belong to a group where people are unsupportive out of the blue. People that take it upon themselves to "fix" what is (in their opinion) broken about me. I HATE assumptions. I do appreciate an appology and do accept that. I'm not interested in having assumptions made about me and then pointed out on a PM. I'm not in high school and playing with the big girls is what I do best. Not playing with you anymore - no more assumptions. thank you.
Laurene, Mom to DD27, DD25, DS23, BBG 1/16/05 3 1/2 yrs old
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madmolly
Tue Sep-23-08 09:09 PM
Member since Oct 07th 2005
2293 posts
#1546, "RE: I've just Emailed TC..."
In response to Reply # 4
"I had decided people were undesirable" I, in fact, did not say that.
Lea
BGG 28.3 weekers
http://mccarthymayhem.blogspot.com/
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3D Montana Mama
Tue Sep-23-08 09:02 PM
Member since Nov 05th 2007
642 posts
#1540, "RE: I've just Emailed TC..."
In response to Reply # 0
Tue Sep-23-08 09:23 PM by 3D Montana Mama
Dear Laurene,
I am not sure what happenned, but I am so sorry to hear this. I wish you would stay!
I hardly ever post anymore, but I do feel like I know you from your posts over the years. You are a wonderful mother and have provided so much support to other mothers here over the years. You offer a perspective which will not easily be replaced. I think of you as my "camping" cohort lol.
Thank you for all of your contributions over the years. You will be missed!
Cynthia
DS-7/99
BBB born 8/04 at 31 4/7 weeks
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madmolly
Tue Sep-23-08 09:07 PM
Member since Oct 07th 2005
2293 posts
#1543, "RE: I've just Emailed TC..."
In response to Reply # 3
Tue Sep-23-08 09:23 PM by madmolly
I posted the entire PM there under the post about the sites we all visit, as requested. I am up to my eye balls with apologies. I do appreciate her! I can't believe the way this unfolded.
Wow, I have powerful words.
Lea
BGG 28.3 weekers
http://mccarthymayhem.blogspot.com/
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Laurene
Tue Sep-23-08 09:08 PM
Member since Jul 18th 2005
2835 posts
#1545, "RE: I've just Emailed TC..."
In response to Reply # 6
Don't give yourself so much credit Lea - your not that powerful....
Laurene, Mom to DD27, DD25, DS23, BBG 1/16/05 3 1/2 yrs old
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Sheller223
Tue Sep-23-08 09:12 PM
Member since Jul 18th 2005
798 posts
#1547, "RE: I've just Emailed TC..."
In response to Reply # 8
If her words are not that powerful to you, then why, oh why are you packing up your toys and leaving? It seems like a bit of an overreaction.
Michelle
ggg born March 15, 2005
35.2 wks
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Laurene
Tue Sep-23-08 09:14 PM
Member since Jul 18th 2005
2835 posts
#1548, "RE: I've just Emailed TC..."
In response to Reply # 10
Another assumption, must be a buddy system.
Laurene, Mom to DD27, DD25, DS23, BBG 1/16/05 3 1/2 yrs old
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Sheller223
Tue Sep-23-08 09:15 PM
Member since Jul 18th 2005
798 posts
#1549, "RE: I've just Emailed TC..."
In response to Reply # 11
How is it an assumption? Weren't those your words?
Michelle
ggg born March 15, 2005
35.2 wks
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Laurene
Tue Sep-23-08 09:19 PM
Member since Jul 18th 2005
2835 posts
#1550, "RE: I've just Emailed TC..."
In response to Reply # 12
Your reading something else into this entirely. Yes, see ya! I'm asking to be removed.
I was talking about - I am not overreacting - telling me to be more open minded and give these ladies a chance is so out of line as I have never not given them a chance.
Why do I feel like I'm being hassled by the Triplet Connection Mafia?
Laurene, Mom to DD27, DD25, DS23, BBG 1/16/05 3 1/2 yrs old
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madmolly
Tue Sep-23-08 09:35 PM
Member since Oct 07th 2005
2293 posts
#1552, "RE: I've just Emailed TC..."
In response to Reply # 13
"telling me to be more open minded"
Again, I did not say that. You are twisting my words and certainly misrepresenting my intent. I can not apologize enough for upsetting you. You stated:
"So me noticing that most of the women on here post somewhere that I don't has caused - yes, hurt feelings, and yes, the thought that I really don't belong here."
That was the very thing I was trying to avoid. I have apologized and apologized for the way that my PM was received by you. It was not my intent to cause drama or to in any way upset you. But, really, you are throwing assumptions about me in post after post after post.
I did not mean to upset you. I am sorry that my message was ill-received. There is a misunderstanding here and I am attempting to clear it up. Instead, I am getting slammed all over the board by you. I hope that you will stay. I hope that you will take a step back and try to view my message with the intent it was written. Clearly my apologies are falling on deaf ears, so I will bow out. I have saved all of the posts so that I can present them in their original state should Janet or Jeff have a concern with my conduct.
Lea
BGG 28.3 weekers
http://mccarthymayhem.blogspot.com/
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Laurene
Tue Sep-23-08 09:44 PM
Member since Jul 18th 2005
2835 posts
#1554, "RE: I've just Emailed TC..."
In response to Reply # 15
"I just wanted to encourage you to get to know us as individuals before you decide that we are as terrible as our reputations foretell. We might just surprise you."
We obviously went to high school in different places because when you break this down it tells me to be more open minded and less judgemental.
I accepted your apology. I have trouble believing you did this and said these things to be nice....we are very different people as I can honestly tell you I would NEVER tell someone "I just wanted to encourage you to get to know us as individuals before you decide that we are as terrible as our reputations foretell. We might just surprise you." this except to bully them. No, I will not step back and let you bully me - I have watched you bully to many people in the years you have belonged and it's not happening to me. Don't tell me what to think or do...your not my crazy mother! Why don't you step back and stop trying to run this board?????
Laurene, Mom to DD27, DD25, DS23, BBG 1/16/05 3 1/2 yrs old
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3D Montana Mama
Tue Sep-23-08 09:20 PM
Member since Nov 05th 2007
642 posts
#1551, "RE: I've just Emailed TC..."
In response to Reply # 6
FWIW, when I posted, there were no other comments under Laurene's post. I had no idea who posted what thing or what any of it was about.
Please notice I immediately edited my post as soon as I saw other responses. I didn't even realize I was stepping in it and I do not want to offend anyone.
Cynthia
DS-7/99
BBB born 8/04 at 31 4/7 weeks
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Laurene
Tue Sep-23-08 09:07 PM
Member since Jul 18th 2005
2835 posts
#1544, "RE: I've just Emailed TC..."
In response to Reply # 3
Thank you Cynthia - I have learned so much from everyone. Watch your posts, things will be decided about you and then you'll be PM'd.
Laurene, Mom to DD27, DD25, DS23, BBG 1/16/05 3 1/2 yrs old
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3petes
Tue Sep-23-08 09:38 PM
Member since Nov 05th 2007
1126 posts
#1553, "RE: I've just Emailed TC..."
In response to Reply # 0
I hate to be dense, but didn't this particular forum/thread just start. Are we really falling apart already due to some misuse of words, perceived or otherwise, by one or more posters? No specifics or judgments in that statement. I just don't know what the hell happened. I thought we were one big happy family with toddlers/preschoolers and everything was hunky dorry. JEEZ.
I love you guys. ALL of you. Through the good and bad, and sickness and health. Let's just all step back and revisit why we come to TC. That's all I ask.
Jamye
Love my GGG ~
2 years old.....How did that happen?
Born on 08/07/06
http://www.babysites.com/sites/3petes/
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Triplethefun04
Tue Sep-23-08 09:46 PM
Member since Jul 18th 2005
795 posts
#1555, "RE: I've just Emailed TC..."
In response to Reply # 16
Exactly what you said, Jamye. I'm in the dark over this and I feel bad, I truly do and I don't even think I'm involved in this?
Again, can't we all just get along?
Michelle
Tyler 17 1/2 years!!
Steph 15 1/2 years!!
Ayden, Ryley & Dylan 3 1/2 years!!
http://triplethefunplus2.blogspot.com/
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Laurene
Tue Sep-23-08 09:48 PM
Member since Jul 18th 2005
2835 posts
#1556, "RE: I've just Emailed TC..."
In response to Reply # 16
Your exactly right Jamye - we come here for support and friendship. Not for bullying and having the TC mafia gang up and make problems worse. I'm so tired of the bullying....
Laurene, Mom to DD27, DD25, DS23, BBG 1/16/05 3 1/2 yrs old
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NC_tripmom
Wed Sep-24-08 12:12 AM
Member since Jul 28th 2008
41 posts
#1573, "RE: I've just Emailed TC..."
In response to Reply # 19
Bullying? Seriously????
Where were you bullied and by whom?? Asking someone to give you the benefit of the doubt is bullying?
Jes
B(GG) 8/04 34 wks
G 7/00
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Laurene
Wed Sep-24-08 08:19 AM
Member since Jul 18th 2005
2835 posts
#1586, "RE: I've just Emailed TC..."
In response to Reply # 26
Great - you don't feel it, I do. Why do I need to give them the benefit of the doubt when I have NEVER indicated that I had an issue? Where did this crazy PM come from - I REFUSE to be the TC Mafia's latest victim - I REFUSE to have the gang come after me and support the person that decided I was having opinions that did not exist. I REFUSE to take it. Some on here take it and think they have to be nice about - I have never been a part of the group and suddenly I'm told to do something by one of them. I'm no ones puppet anymore. Lea never even speaks to me and then sends me this random PM out of the blue....how would you feel?????? Well, like I said, I feel like the latest victim - do what we want, give us a chance - LOL! I have NEVER NOT GIVEN HER AND HER GANG A CHANCE. Yet he responses are certainly quick to jump to her defense. Interesting huh?
Laurene, Mom to DD27, DD25, DS23, BBG 1/16/05 3 1/2 yrs old
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LolasLadies
Tue Sep-23-08 10:39 PM
Member since Nov 05th 2007
1077 posts
#1558, "RE: I've just Emailed TC..."
In response to Reply # 16
We're STILL one big happy family, and if we don't stop all this fighting, I'm gonna pull the car over and hand out some spankings!
Jan.2005 @ 28wks: Alison 2.3 Emma 2.2 Kristin 1.11
The world's least triplet-related triplet blog: http://sweetenedtaters.blogspot.com
Autumn Vine jewelry: http://autumnvine.blogspot.com
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MSTAR
Tue Sep-23-08 11:01 PM
Member since Jul 18th 2005
1945 posts
#1562, "RE: I've just Emailed TC..."
In response to Reply # 0
For the record, I'm not on the other site. And Lea and I already had our pissing match a year and a half ago and we have since made up and moved on. I was really mad at her too. Then her little boy got sick and was in the hospital and I felt like a big old a$$ for getting mad over an internet site. So I sucked it up and stopped being a toad, when what really matters is our kids and not some silly site that doesn't mean anything unless you are actually going to it.
I only saw like 4 or 5 people in that whole list that were on the other site. I'm not. Laura isn't. Loren isn't. Laraine isn't. Wait. Wow. Laurene isn't. Lea must not want any other "L"s over there.
Anyway, just wanted you to know that I liked having you on this new preschool site and you always have good information, so should you stay we'd love for you to.
Michele
Sarah, Gregory, Amanda
born 1/22/04 at 35w1d
Our surprise baby Austin born 06/15/2005
www.fourtimesthefun.blogspot.com
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madmolly
Tue Sep-23-08 11:53 PM
Member since Oct 07th 2005
2293 posts
#1570, "RE: I've just Emailed TC..."
In response to Reply # 21
Really, Michele? Kickin' me when I'm down? Anyone else wanna a shot?
Lea
BGG 28.3 weekers
http://mccarthymayhem.blogspot.com/
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MSTAR
Wed Sep-24-08 12:14 AM
Member since Jul 18th 2005
1945 posts
#1574, "RE: I've just Emailed TC..."
In response to Reply # 25
I'm not kicking you! I was TEASING about the "L"s. I HATE that you are going through everything you are going through right now. It sucks and that's why I don't care about internet sites.
Michele
Sarah, Gregory, Amanda
born 1/22/04 at 35w1d
Our surprise baby Austin born 06/15/2005
www.fourtimesthefun.blogspot.com
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foreveramom
Tue Sep-23-08 11:03 PM
Member since Jan 30th 2006
1163 posts
#1563, "RE: I've just Emailed TC..."
In response to Reply # 0
Not completely up-to-date on this, but Laurene, don't go anywhere. I don't see this as anyone bullying you. I don't know for sure, and I don't want to jump conclusions, but I take it that I'm not your favorite person...just a feeling I get. But I don't feel like I don't belong just because someone may not like me. I don't actually think I've ever noticed anyone playing bully to you.
We're a rare breed, those with adult children and preschool triplets. There are so few of us. I really at one point thought you and I would hit it off instantly. I get it. You don't agree with my lifestyle. So we'll never be friends, but I'd like to stay on here. And I'd like you to stay on here. If you work for a corporation and are bouncing ideas off of even the co-workers you hate, you're still being productive. In the end, you can still draw conclusions.
Nobody wants you out of here. But if you feel strongly that you should, I think you should give it a day to see if tomorrow brings some different perspective. I think Mother Hormone has gotten to everyone on TC this past week.
Mom of: Kristi(22), Kevin(19), Kelli(17), Angus(5) and GGB - Ruca, Nadia and Max (3) Born 10-14-04 at 34 weeks.
www.angusandthetriplets.com
also www.angusandthetriplets.blogspot.com
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PA triplets
Tue Sep-23-08 11:24 PM
Member since Nov 05th 2007
1604 posts
#1567, "RE: I've just Emailed TC..."
In response to Reply # 0
Laurene, could you please take a step back and re-visit your decision in a few days? I just read all the drama in this thread and the other one. I'm frankly not quite sure why you are so upset. I read Lea's PM to you and really don't think she was trying to be offensive or judgemental at all. I think in a few days you may realize you have overreacted.
I do not frequent the other board either. I check it out once in a while. The public side of the board often makes me uncomfortable. Since the requirement for joining over there seems to be proving yourself on the public board I really can't join. However, I am told that the private side is very supportive. I don't think being a member over there makes anyone a bad person. It certainly isn't a reflection of how the women there are raising their kids.
Please give yourself a few days to calm down before you decide to leave. There are many here that would miss you on this site. There has been too much drama around her lately. Can't we just try to keep the Toddler Board a drama free zone?
Lori
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foreveramom
Tue Sep-23-08 11:40 PM
Member since Jan 30th 2006
1163 posts
#1568, "RE: I've just Emailed TC..."
In response to Reply # 23
It's not really a slumber party until somebody falls asleep crying, though, is it?
My meaning is, it's not a group of women congregating without someone taking something the wrong way. Expect it but don't take it personally.
Mom of: Kristi(22), Kevin(19), Kelli(17), Angus(5) and GGB - Ruca, Nadia and Max (3) Born 10-14-04 at 34 weeks.
www.angusandthetriplets.com
also www.angusandthetriplets.blogspot.com
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Triplethefun04
Wed Sep-24-08 08:30 AM
Member since Jul 18th 2005
795 posts
#1587, "RE: I've just Emailed TC..."
In response to Reply # 23
You pretty much nailed TDC, Lori. We are very supportive of each other, in fact we intermingle in real life as much as we can. The public side is just for venting - for anyone, not just us - and having some fun. One person's idea of fun may be too off color for another, but it blows off steam.
Lea was geniune in her pm. She feels absolutely horrible over this, nothing she said was meant to be holier than thou or to think for Laurene. Something was taken completely the wrong way. She has apologized a million times and I personally don't think she has anything to apologize for.
If Laurene decides to leave over something that I'm still not sure of, then so be it. She will be missed. But she knows where TC is and she's always welcome here.
Lesa, hahaha on the slumber party analogy, it's sooo true!
I'll say it again. I'm loving this new board and think that every single lady that posts on it rocks! I've learned more from everyone on TC than anyone I know in real life. Little tricks of the trade that keep my life going! I hope this can stay drama free after this and we can just get along and get past what sites people visit. Cause to me it really doesn't matter where anyone goes.
Michelle
Tyler 17 1/2 years!!
Steph 15 1/2 years!!
Ayden, Ryley & Dylan 3 1/2 years!!
http://triplethefunplus2.blogspot.com/
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