spontaneous.bbg Thu May-26-11 08:49 PM
Member since Feb 25th 2011
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#483694, "Who made it past 36 weeks?"
Thu May-26-11 09:48 PM by spontaneous.bbg
Hi,
I'm in my 36th week with no complications or bedrest. I'm very active; shopping, cooking, building furniture, ect.., no signs of preterm labor. My doctor scheduled my c-section for 37 weeks and 2 days. I'm wondering if anyone else can share their experiences of making it past week 36 and if anyone has made to week 37?
Esther
http://www.spontaneoustriplets.com
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RE: Who made it past 36 weeks?, lovemy5boys, May 26th 2011, #1
RE: Who made it past 36 weeks?, scorrin5, May 26th 2011, #2
RE: Who made it past 36 weeks?, spontaneous.bbg, May 26th 2011, #4
RE: Who made it past 36 weeks?, jeneis, May 26th 2011, #3
RE: Who made it past 36 weeks?, erin.eloisa, May 26th 2011, #5
RE: Who made it past 36 weeks?, spontaneous.bbg, May 26th 2011, #6
RE: Who made it past 36 weeks?, okeypokey3, May 26th 2011, #7
RE: Who made it past 36 weeks?, spontaneous.bbg, May 26th 2011, #8
RE: Who made it past 36 weeks?, atkindred, May 27th 2011, #9
RE: Who made it past 36 weeks?, spontaneous.bbg, May 27th 2011, #10
RE: Who made it past 36 weeks?, kathysyd, May 27th 2011, #11
RE: Who made it past 36 weeks?, spontaneous.bbg, May 27th 2011, #13
RE: Who made it past 36 weeks?, kathysyd, May 27th 2011, #21
RE: Who made it past 36 weeks?, Sharon, May 27th 2011, #24
RE: Who made it past 36 weeks?, Coriannder, May 27th 2011, #12
RE: Who made it past 36 weeks?, spontaneous.bbg, May 27th 2011, #14
RE: Who made it past 36 weeks?, Coriannder, May 27th 2011, #17
RE: Who made it past 36 weeks?, spontaneous.bbg, May 27th 2011, #18
RE: Who made it past 36 weeks?, Judie, May 27th 2011, #15
RE: Who made it past 36 weeks?, spontaneous.bbg, May 27th 2011, #16
RE: Who made it past 36 weeks?, Hope08, May 27th 2011, #19
RE: Who made it past 36 weeks?, spontaneous.bbg, May 27th 2011, #20
RE: Who made it past 36 weeks?, pyjammy, May 27th 2011, #22
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RE: Who made it past 36 weeks?, spontaneous.bbg, May 27th 2011, #25
RE: Who made it past 36 weeks?, sandsstone, May 27th 2011, #26
RE: Who made it past 36 weeks?, spontaneous.bbg, May 28th 2011, #31
RE: Who made it past 36 weeks?, VonWasden, May 28th 2011, #27
RE: Who made it past 36 weeks?, spontaneous.bbg, May 28th 2011, #28
RE: Who made it past 36 weeks?, JodyM, May 28th 2011, #29
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RE: Who made it past 36 weeks?, Tasha, May 28th 2011, #32
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RE: Who made it past 36 weeks?, scottnik, May 28th 2011, #34
RE: Who made it past 36 weeks?, Tasha, May 29th 2011, #38
RE: Who made it past 36 weeks?, spontaneous.bbg, May 29th 2011, #42
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RE: Who made it past 36 weeks?, 6BlueEyes, May 29th 2011, #44
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RE: Who made it past 36 weeks?, kathysyd, May 29th 2011, #46
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RE: Who made it past 36 weeks?, Hope08, May 28th 2011, #36
RE: Who made it past 36 weeks?, spontaneous.bbg, May 29th 2011, #41
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lovemy5boys Thu May-26-11 08:51 PM
Member since Nov 05th 2007
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#483695, "RE: Who made it past 36 weeks?"
In response to Reply # 0
A triplet pregnancy is considered full term at 36 weeks. Any longer could be dangerous. Are you seeing a regular ob or a peri?
proud mom to
DS 9
DS 6
BBB 9/29/06 born @ 32w2d
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scorrin5 Thu May-26-11 09:26 PM
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#483696, "RE: Who made it past 36 weeks?"
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Ditto what pp said. Some of the more recent studies are finding that the 35th week may even be considered safer. Most peris will not extend the pregnancy beyond the 36th week. Has your dr told you why he wants you to go so late?
Shiloh--Proud Mom to:
BGG born 2/04
B born 7/06
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spontaneous.bbg Thu May-26-11 10:05 PM
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#483698, "RE: Who made it past 36 weeks?"
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Thu May-26-11 10:21 PM by spontaneous.bbg
Yep. We had a long discussion about it. He's a multiples-only peri who keeps up-to-date on the research and is connected to UCSD. He's been at it for about 20 years, and came highly recommended. He says the lungs may still not be fully developed, with a 5 - 10% chance of problems if they come out before 38 weeks. He's seen lung problems with babes born at 36 weeks and thinks no NICU time is worth the risk of me going a little longer. Of course I told him that many get scheduled c-sections at 35-36 weeks (which he of course knows), but he said there is debate on whether going longer is better (and worth the risk of other complications). At this point, I need to trust his methods, especially with as many triplets he's delivered past 36 weeks w/o complications for mother or babies spending time in the NICU.
I'm really wondering about others who have made it past 36 weeks, because I know they're out there!
Esther
http://www.spontaneoustriplets.com
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jeneis Thu May-26-11 09:50 PM
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#483697, "RE: Who made it past 36 weeks?"
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I also ditto that my peri would not let me go any further than 36 weeks bad things can happen if you go tooo long, maybe talk to him again, and I was like you everything good not one complication, no preterm labor i loved my doc, go back and talk to them!
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Timmy 4lbs 15 oz 15 days Nicu
Caylee 5lbs 3 oz 2 days Nicu
Joey 5lbs 7oz NO NICU
Born at 35 weeks 1 day May 26, 2009
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erin.eloisa Thu May-26-11 10:53 PM
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#483699, "RE: Who made it past 36 weeks?"
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Thu May-26-11 10:55 PM by erin.eloisa
I too had spontaneous triplets with no bedrest/complications and was delivered at my peri's insistence @ 36 weeks. My babies, while thankfully having no lasting repercussions, where in the NICU for 2 weeks, Both my boys needed C-pap for 3 days and all three were in isolates. While I can't speculate on the wisdom of going past 36 weeks, I wanted to share my story, as I definitely was not prepared to have babies that would not be coming home with me. Much less to have them needing medical intervention.
Erin
paynemanagement.blogspot.com
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spontaneous.bbg Thu May-26-11 11:15 PM
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#483700, "RE: Who made it past 36 weeks?"
In response to Reply # 5
Thank you for replying and sharing. This is very helpful and what I was seeking from my post. I would not have expected them to be in NICU, either. Again, thank-you very much for sharing with me.
Esther
http://www.spontaneoustriplets.com
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okeypokey3 Thu May-26-11 11:44 PM
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#483701, "RE: Who made it past 36 weeks?"
In response to Reply # 6
Just wanted to say I went to exactly 37 weeks.
I had big healthy babies with no NICU time.
Best of luck to you!!!
Gina mom to BBG born 2-4-03 at 37 weeks
and surprise baby boy 11/07
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spontaneous.bbg Thu May-26-11 11:46 PM
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#483702, "RE: Who made it past 36 weeks?"
In response to Reply # 7
Ah-ha! I knew someone was out there! Thanks so much, you're an inspiration!!!
Esther
http://www.spontaneoustriplets.com
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atkindred Fri May-27-11 12:15 AM
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#483703, "RE: Who made it past 36 weeks?"
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My long time friend and neighbor growing up had her triplets at 37 weeks and they all came home with her. She had a couple of 7 pounders and one in the 6 pound range.
Good luck!
Grateful mother of seven, 8 and under:
B 8/02
B 9/03
GBG 3/06 at 35 weeks
GB 12/08 at 38 weeks
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spontaneous.bbg Fri May-27-11 12:30 AM
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#483704, "RE: Who made it past 36 weeks?"
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Fri May-27-11 12:39 AM by spontaneous.bbg
wow, you never hear about women who have triplets in the 6-7 lb range. It's so cool to hear it happens and mom and babes doing so well!
Esther
http://www.spontaneoustriplets.com
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kathysyd Fri May-27-11 02:42 AM
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#483713, "RE: Who made it past 36 weeks?"
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I have always heard of the dangers of going too long with triplets also.
Another thing to think about is the damage you are doing to your own body.
mom to:
Ryan 30 The Lawyer
Jason 28 The Meteorologist
Chris 28 The Manager
Tim 28 The college grad
I love hearing their versions of their childhood memories!!
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spontaneous.bbg Fri May-27-11 03:08 AM
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#483718, "RE: Who made it past 36 weeks?"
In response to Reply # 11
Please, if you're not going to post something helpful or nice, don't post!
Esther
http://www.spontaneoustriplets.com
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kathysyd Fri May-27-11 11:29 AM
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#483730, "RE: Who made it past 36 weeks?"
In response to Reply # 13
Actually this information is true.
Your body is put through a lot during a triplet pregnancy.
mom to:
Ryan 30 The Lawyer
Jason 28 The Meteorologist
Chris 28 The Manager
Tim 28 The college grad
I love hearing their versions of their childhood memories!!
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Sharon Fri May-27-11 02:23 PM
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#483735, "RE: Who made it past 36 weeks?"
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Fri May-27-11 02:25 PM by Sharon
I agree with Kathy. I was explained the various risks of waiting between 35 weeks and 36 weeks. Not counting the risks to the mom, there were issues that could happen with placental breakdown and cord compression.
To the original poster, please make sure you are monitored closely. I'm sure nothing anyone says on this forum will make a difference since you appear comfortable with your choice. But on behalf of your babies, please make sure you are getting excellent and closely-monitored health care.
My boys were born at 35w2d. My doctor did not want a 36 week delivery. I was in the hospital for 4 days due to the c-section. One boy went home with me, one on day 5, and one on day 6. My boys were 5-4, 5-11, and 5-15.
Sharon
14 year old b.b.b + 17 year old son
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Coriannder Fri May-27-11 03:06 AM
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#483716, "RE: Who made it past 36 weeks?"
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I went to 36 weeks, 2 days. My son was 6.13, my girls were 5.12 and 5.1. All 3 were take home babies.
My practice was going to allow me to go to 37 weeks but they stirred things up and started labor. (Due to insurance resason they couldn't do an elective csection before 37 weeks even for triplets. They will do them earlier for triplets if the lungs past a maturity test done by doing an amino. The amino sent me into labor.)
As for one PP said, "Another thing to think about is the damage you are doing to your own body." I feel that I have no more damage done to my body then anyone else with triplets. Yes, I need a tummy tuck but everything else is fine...back, stomach muscles, etc.
If you have any other questions, let me know. Especially with bringing 3 home from the get-go. Good luck!!
Cori
Boy, 6
Boy, 3
GBG born at 36w2d on 5/25/10
I *think* we're done.
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spontaneous.bbg Fri May-27-11 03:16 AM
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#483719, "RE: Who made it past 36 weeks?"
In response to Reply # 12
Hi Cori,
Wow, those are some big babies! Way to go! And thanks for sharing! I'm wondering about the amino - I'll ask my doc about it tomorrow. I go in 2-3 times a week for monitoring and testing. They keep a very close eye on me to ensure the babies and I are not developing any problems. I'll PM you if I have any questions!
Esther
http://www.spontaneoustriplets.com
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Coriannder Fri May-27-11 04:05 AM
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#483724, "RE: Who made it past 36 weeks?"
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Esther,
They do the amino to cover their butts. If the doctors would deliver triplets earlier then 37 weeks on a " non-emergency basis" and their lungs are not mature, the doctors will hear about it. That was how things were laid out for me with my insurance using the hospital I was at.
While the amino is not bad, I would have skipped it now in hindgsight. They did the amino and the babies failed the lung test. Was sent home and waited another week. Did another amino, failed again but this time I went to labor due all the stress of having the amino. Babies were born and lungs were FINE. My doctor told me that they happens...they fail the test but chances are they are fine.
Cori
Boy, 6
Boy, 3
GBG born at 36w2d on 5/25/10
I *think* we're done.
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spontaneous.bbg Fri May-27-11 04:23 AM
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#483725, "RE: Who made it past 36 weeks?"
In response to Reply # 17
Fri May-27-11 04:23 AM by spontaneous.bbg
hmm, interesting...maybe that's why he didn't suggest the amino...
Esther
http://www.spontaneoustriplets.com
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Judie Fri May-27-11 03:17 AM
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#483720, "RE: Who made it past 36 weeks?"
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I delivered at 36 weeks 3 days. My doctor's office typically delivered any time after 36 weeks so when I was at 32 weeks they said pick a day!
I have a friend that went 37 weeks 2 days.
In both of our cases, all the kids were healthy, over 5 pounds, no NICU, and went home 4 days later.
Neither of us have suffered any health problems (except the wages of 4 teenagers! in my case)
Judie and Victor
lucky parents to
Frankie 3/95
Maggie 7/96
Rose 7/96
Elizabeth 7/96
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spontaneous.bbg Fri May-27-11 03:20 AM
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#483721, "RE: Who made it past 36 weeks?"
In response to Reply # 15
Wow! Great news, all these big babies! Thank-you!!
Esther
http://www.spontaneoustriplets.com
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Hope08 Fri May-27-11 06:00 AM
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#483727, "RE: Who made it past 36 weeks?"
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Fri May-27-11 06:13 AM by Hope08
Same here, Esther. Went 36.1 weeks. Wish I could say I was as ambulatory as you at that point---it was pretty painful. I'm a very small person (tiny and short torso/midsection), so I could barely breathe, let alone do more than walk a few yards here and there at that point. I'd always been very active prior to that and was very athletic, so it was tough for me to spend so much of my time forcing myself to sit down, but like you, I was never on bedrest. My peri and I scheduled a C-section even though I had absolutely no signs of PTL, pre-e or anything like that for my 36th week. (She really wanted to hit this point and even the day of, I honestly felt like these little guys could easily stick around another 2 weeks---no signs of anything at all. I even forced myself to pace the neighborhood---ouch!---trying to get labor started...nothing! So, I delivered our babies...all over 5 lb. and they had absolutely no NICU time. I don't regret for a second delivering them at that point. In fact, I felt safer when they were out than when they were in me to be perfectly honest. Poor things had no more room...I was so scared of the cords compressing or the placentas being compromised in any way esp. since there were a few babies and all that pressure.
My uncle's a well-known neonatologist, and he said that 36-37 weeks is really the perfect time to deliver. Anything past that is just icing on the cake and past 37 weeks is usually not a dealbreaker. To be perfectly honest, I think some docs kind of like to brag about how long their patients can go, so 3 or 4 days this far down the line will most likely have slim to no effect on the outcome. In fact, my uncle pointed out that he's seen more and more singletons born at 40 weeks who have needed NICU time, so there really is no escaping it if there are issues in many cases. I know of a few triplet moms who went up to 34 weeks (no shots) and had no NICU time with big babies, and I even knew of a mom with triplets who went to 37.3 weeks, and two of hers needed the NICU for a week. In fact, my youngest sister was born at 33.2 weeks, and she came out 6 1/2 lb. with no NICU time, so you never know 100%. My niece was born at 37. 4 wks, and she needed a couple days for breathing issues. You just never know. A great deal of the equation has to deal with the environment in the uterus as well as each baby's developmental processes/speeds. Good luck!
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spontaneous.bbg Fri May-27-11 07:42 AM
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#483729, "RE: Who made it past 36 weeks?"
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Fri May-27-11 07:44 AM by spontaneous.bbg
Hi Hope08,
I remember you from your post under "spontaneous triplets". I thought you provided the best information on that post. It's nice to hear from you. Again, you seem to have a wealth of useful information, so thank you for taking the time to share it with me. I read your post to my husband and we both think you seem well-informed and your points make a lot of sense. I'm also small (5'2") and was very fit before getting pregnant. Yes, it's hard for me to breath at times, especially in bed at night - it scares me so much I have to get up and head to the couch! I make an effort to stay mobile, and since doing so, I've been feeling a lot better physically.
I truly hope to make it to 37 weeks. I completely trust my peri, and I'm being well-monitored for any problems that may develop.
Esther
http://www.spontaneoustriplets.com
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pyjammy Fri May-27-11 01:19 PM
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#483733, "RE: Who made it past 36 weeks?"
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There's a woman in our local triplet group who had her boys at 37 weeks. As far as I know, they were all big, healthy, and had no NICU time. But that's all I know.
Pam
Identical BBB triplets born 12/4/07 at 33w2d
http://www.pyjammy.com
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spontaneous.bbg Fri May-27-11 02:23 PM
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#483734, "RE: Who made it past 36 weeks?"
In response to Reply # 22
very encouraging, thanks, Pam!
Esther
http://www.spontaneoustriplets.com
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spontaneous.bbg Fri May-27-11 02:47 PM
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#483736, "RE: Who made it past 36 weeks?"
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Fri May-27-11 03:06 PM by spontaneous.bbg
Apparently some people don't realize there's more than one right way to give care for a triplet pregnancy.
I'm aware of the possible risks and benefits of going past 36 weeks, and so is my peri. I've addressed the negative points people keep making already on this board (maybe read first before posting?), as well as on my blog. Do you really think judgmental criticisms will help me at this point?
My doc would not schedule an earlier c-section, so this has nothing to do with my "choice" (inferring if something went wrong it would be my fault). I'm being monitored very closely and I trust him. If there appears to be the SLIGHTEST problem, out they come.
Again, I'm seeking input from those who have or know someone who has delivered triplets after 36 weeks.
Esther
http://www.spontaneoustriplets.com
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sandsstone Fri May-27-11 08:47 PM
Member since Nov 05th 2007
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#483748, "RE: Who made it past 36 weeks?"
In response to Reply # 25
Just wondering what kind of input you are seeking. It sounds like you have had a fab pregnancy and are in the home stretch. Did you just want the stats on NICU time, weights and such?
Congratulations to you and your trio, I look forward to seeing the announcement of their birth!
Susan
Parent to GGG born 31 weeks 4 days 4/26/07
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spontaneous.bbg Sat May-28-11 04:32 AM
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#483755, "RE: Who made it past 36 weeks?"
In response to Reply # 26
Hi Susan,
Yes, any information would be appreciated. I was wondering if others had good or bad experiences with making it past 36 weeks. Of course, there are plenty of people who have opinions about it, but I'm asking to hear from the people who actually went through it. Did everything go ok, were the babies fine, any problems, ect..I just want to know what I may have in store if I make it to my scheduled c-section at 37 weeks.
Esther
http://www.spontaneoustriplets.com
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VonWasden Sat May-28-11 01:33 AM
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#483749, "RE: Who made it past 36 weeks?"
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I had a scheduled c-sec at 36w4d and everything went fantastically. Like you I was active up until the end. I was very with no complications or problems. The boys were 6.5, 5 6.5 lbs each. We all came home together after 4 days.
Congrats and good luck!
Kim
Nate, Nick & Noel(36w4d)and Nia.
http://www.tickercentral.com>
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spontaneous.bbg Sat May-28-11 02:56 AM
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#483751, "RE: Who made it past 36 weeks?"
In response to Reply # 27
thank-you! I'm hoping to make it to the c-section, although I know it'll be a long shot if I do!
Esther
http://www.spontaneoustriplets.com
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JodyM Sat May-28-11 03:03 AM
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#483752, "RE: Who made it past 36 weeks?"
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Sat May-28-11 03:04 AM by JodyM
This will have nothing to do with your original post since I carried to 33 weeks Just looked at your blog and saw that you are finishing up your Ph.D. I defended mine when I was 15 weeks pregnant with BBBs. I stopped going in to school where I was teaching on fellowship at around 22 weeks...I was making people nervous I went on bedrest 2 weeks later and stayed there until I delivered.
Loved your blog, and wanted to say congrats and wish you good luck! The Ph.D. and kids are totally doable. We went from 0 kids when I was hired in my professorship to 4 here and 1 on the way still pretenure, and I've managed to write articles and make the disseration into a book--with childcare help, of course If you have about three more years to go, you will definitely need that child care when it comes time to write (my advice: write sections of the dissertation as seminar papers if you can, and when you go to write, start by coming up with a chapter plan and just knock one off at a time--not so overwhelming)!! You will have such fun with them! The kids I mean--and hopefully the dissertation chapters as well...
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spontaneous.bbg Sat May-28-11 03:20 AM
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#483754, "RE: Who made it past 36 weeks?"
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Sat May-28-11 04:52 AM by spontaneous.bbg
Thanks so much for writing! I've been feeling a little isolated with triplets on the way and 3 years left in a PhD program. I don't fit in with typical grad students anymore, so it's very reassuring to hear from someone else who can give me advice on how to get through this (not the triplets part, the triplets part + PhD part). I'm going back full time in the fall, when they are 4 months old. I found a nanny who will come to the house. It's not what I would have wanted, but neither was an unexpected pregnancy while in a PhD program. I've been working on a meta-analysis from home, in addition to 2 other research projects...I'm pretty stressed!
Thanks for the advice. It sounds like you've managed to publish and keep on track. I keep working everyday. I just hope I don't lose my mind in the fall. I'm in a fully funded program, so I teach sections in personality courses, psych 101 courses, statistics, ect...What field are you in?
Again, any additional advice you may have for me is very much appreciated!
Esther
http://www.spontaneoustriplets.com
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Tasha Sat May-28-11 06:42 PM
Member since Jul 19th 2005
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#483759, "RE: Who made it past 36 weeks?"
In response to Reply # 30
"Thanks so much for writing! I've been feeling a little isolated with triplets on the way and 3 years left in a PhD program. I definitely don't fit in with the usual crowd of triplet moms, and now I don't fit in with typical grad students, so it's very reassuring to hear from someone else who can give me advice on how to get through this (not the triplets part, the triplets part + PhD part). I'm going back full time in the fall, when they are 4 months old. I found a nanny who will come to the house. It's not what I would have wanted, but neither was an unexpected pregnancy while in a PhD program. I've been working on a meta-analysis from home, in addition to 2 other research projects...I'm pretty stressed!
Thanks for the advice. It sounds like you've managed to publish and keep on track. I keep working everyday. I just hope I don't lose my mind in the fall. I'm in a fully funded program, so I teach sections in personality courses, psych 101 courses, statistics, ect...What field are you in?
Again, any additional advice you may have for me is very much appreciated!
Esther
http://www.spontaneoustriplets.com"
Wow Sheldon I guess we usual triplet moms just ain't as edumacated. Oh, I know get out of your spot.
-Penny
Tasha
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spontaneous.bbg Sat May-28-11 08:59 PM
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#483761, "RE: Who made it past 36 weeks?"
In response to Reply # 32
whoops! I had edited that out of the post for fear it would come out wrong...it has nothing to do with education, but with the unplanned pregnancy...no intention to offend, obviously there are many educated and smart triplet moms!
Esther
http://www.spontaneoustriplets.com
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scottnik Sat May-28-11 09:30 PM
Member since Nov 27th 2007
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#483763, "RE: Who made it past 36 weeks?"
In response to Reply # 33
Don't worry - there are many moms on here who have gone through a PhD program
I have a friend who made it to 37 weeks with her trio. They weighed 7lbs, 6lbs, and almost 5lbs. Her daughter (the almost 5 lb baby) did have about a week of NICU time.
Congrats on making it this far in your pregnancy. Things can change at any time, but you may just make it to your 37 week scheduled c-section!
Nik
GBG triplets born 4/2/05
30w5d
www.thebestthingscomein3.blogspot.com
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Tasha Sun May-29-11 12:13 AM
Member since Jul 19th 2005
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#483767, "RE: Who made it past 36 weeks?"
In response to Reply # 33
Actually there are many of us that had unplanned pregnancies. Yes most may have used some form of ART but there are more of us than you may think. We just don't feel the need to make sure a big deal about it. It is nice to share stories about the shock of finding out our birth control failed. But pretty much after that the experience isn't really any different than a mother who used any form of ART.
Tasha
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spontaneous.bbg Sun May-29-11 03:03 AM
Member since Feb 25th 2011
38 posts
#483771, "RE: Who made it past 36 weeks?"
In response to Reply # 38
I realized your points right after writing that post, which is why I edited that statement out. I didn't want to make a big deal about it on this board. I guess not fast enough for someone to get a hold of it and attack anyway!
Esther
http://www.spontaneoustriplets.com
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Celesta Sat May-28-11 09:32 PM
Member since Jun 16th 2010
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#483764, "RE: Who made it past 36 weeks?"
In response to Reply # 32
Most triplets moms requiring ART usually put off having children while they pursued higher education and careers. As a group, the triplet moms I know are highly educated. I wouldn't lump all of us as a group of dumbasses. Most of us were smart enough to not get pregnant while we were still in school. Just sayin'.
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spontaneous.bbg Sat May-28-11 11:58 PM
Member since Feb 25th 2011
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#483766, "RE: Who made it past 36 weeks?"
In response to Reply # 35
What are you talking about? Do you just make stuff up? They have medication for that, you know.
Esther
http://www.spontaneoustriplets.com
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sandsstone Sun May-29-11 01:29 AM
Member since Nov 05th 2007
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#483768, "RE: Who made it past 36 weeks?"
In response to Reply # 37
Careful. Some people do read (and copy) what you have on your blog before they comment. I had chalked up your comments to hormones/pain/PG, but others may not.
Susan
Parent to GGG born 31 weeks 4 days 4/26/07
http://www.thedivinemercy.org/message
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spontaneous.bbg Sun May-29-11 02:00 AM
Member since Feb 25th 2011
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#483769, "RE: Who made it past 36 weeks?"
In response to Reply # 39
Sun May-29-11 02:12 AM by spontaneous.bbg
Thanks, Susan. Just like many others who get attacked on this site, I never intended to imply superiority or offend anyone. If I had thought that were possible, I never would have posted here in the first place (and never will again). It's clear some people on this forum like to twist others' comments so as to harass and abuse unsuspecting members.
Esther
http://www.spontaneoustriplets.com
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6BlueEyes Sun May-29-11 01:47 PM
Member since Jul 19th 2005
792 posts
#483775, "RE: Who made it past 36 weeks?"
In response to Reply # 40
It always strikes me that the most "sesitive" readers on this board are also the ones that are most insensitive as to what they say themselves. As a someone that is studying for a phd in pshychology, it seems that you should be able to understand how your comments could offend and insult others. Hopefully, it is just your hormones and you are not actually that arrogant.
Kelly
Ben, Jack & Drew 05/28/02
Charlie 07/06/06
Aunt to: Liam, Aidan & Connor 03/05/08
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scorrin5 Sun May-29-11 05:19 PM
Member since Jul 19th 2005
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#483777, "RE: Who made it past 36 weeks?"
In response to Reply # 44
PERFECTLY said. Nothing like starting your time on a forum chat board with wanting some more information about your wonderful pregnancy and your stellar educational advancements.
Has it occurred to the OP that going past 36 weeks in a triplet pregnancy is rare in the fact that it is usually not either thought safe or most moms are not lucky enough to get close to that far---so I am still with PP Susan on this one---what exactly were you looking for? No one here or anywhere can give you these answers. On this board there are 25 week multiple miracles and then there are moms that have singletons born well beyond full term with health issues. I suppose there are averages/statistics but again, those past the weeks of 36-37 are rare.
What if your pregnancy had not progressed this well? How would this post appear to you if you had not been so lucky in your pregnancy and your children had not been so healthy thus far? Can you honestly say that your postings would not strike a nerve if your pregnancy had gone differently? I know you say you are leaving this board (all pot stirrers usually do say this) but do know that even though you have offended many, edumacated and unedumacated, we will still be here and be supportive. I still don't see how your joke of education refers to your unplanned pregnancy??---also, there is no such thing as a "planned triplet pregnancy." Just one of many lessons to come of your very early journey of parenthood. I hope all of your future writings for your PhD go better than what you have presented here!
Shiloh--Proud Mom to:
BGG born 2/04
B born 7/06
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kathysyd Sun May-29-11 05:26 PM
Member since Jul 19th 2005
1213 posts
#483778, "RE: Who made it past 36 weeks?"
In response to Reply # 45
>PERFECTLY said. Nothing like starting your time on a forum
>chat board with wanting some more information about your
>wonderful pregnancy and your stellar educational advancements.
>
>
>Has it occurred to the OP that going past 36 weeks in a
>triplet pregnancy is rare in the fact that it is usually not
>either thought safe or most moms are not lucky enough to get
>close to that far---so I am still with PP Susan on this
>one---what exactly were you looking for? No one here or
>anywhere can give you these answers. On this board there are
>25 week multiple miracles and then there are moms that have
>singletons born well beyond full term with health issues. I
>suppose there are averages/statistics but again, those past
>the weeks of 36-37 are rare.
>
>What if your pregnancy had not progressed this well? How
>would this post appear to you if you had not been so lucky in
>your pregnancy and your children had not been so healthy thus
>far? Can you honestly say that your postings would not strike
>a nerve if your pregnancy had gone differently? I know you
>say you are leaving this board (all pot stirrers usually do
>say this) but do know that even though you have offended many,
>edumacated and unedumacated, we will still be here and be
>supportive. I still don't see how your joke of education
>refers to your unplanned pregnancy??---also, there is no such
>thing as a "planned triplet pregnancy." Just one of many
>lessons to come of your very early journey of parenthood. I
>hope all of your future writings for your PhD go better than
>what you have presented here!
Very well stated. You must be educated. LOL!!!
I have heard for years that going too far in a Higher Order Mulitple pregnancy can cause the demise of the babies. I don't understand a doctor pushing the pregnancy to the limits. I also know how difficult this is on the mother's body.
Just speaking from years of experience.
mom to:
Ryan 30 The Lawyer
Jason 28 The Meteorologist
Chris 28 The Manager
Tim 28 The college grad
I love hearing their versions of their childhood memories!!
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Celesta Sun May-29-11 06:22 PM
Member since Jun 16th 2010
270 posts
#483779, "RE: Who made it past 36 weeks?"
In response to Reply # 46
Sun May-29-11 06:24 PM by Celesta
I'm sorry. Your two decades of following triplet outcomes on this board do not qualify you to have an opinion, ignoramus. As I can see from your signature, it appears your triplets are dumbasses, too. Could your try to educate yourself and your offspring for the sake of this crowd?
Then get back to us when you go back in time to your 20s, when you knew everything. Make sure to not actually answer any questions unless you agree. I would also like to see you change your screen name to Spontaneous Kathysyd, because I don't think you've mentioned that once in the last 15 years, so you must be trying to hide something. I thank you for your cooperation.
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Hope08 Sat May-28-11 10:09 PM
Member since Apr 09th 2009
271 posts
#483765, "RE: Who made it past 36 weeks?"
In response to Reply # 30
Sat May-28-11 10:11 PM by Hope08
I think if you have help, it'll be very manageable. I've been working full-time, did the grad student thing, took on a supervisory position etc...with toddler triplets and things fell into place. I was asked by several of the dep't chairs to get my doctoral degree, but I've decided to go after it when the kids are a little older. I'm only 27, so I'm thinking in my 30s? My husband is also not very supportive of me working full-time and pursuing it, and I have to continue to work as I'm really making strides at this point in my career. I'm at UCLA, and the tuition is another issue for me. We just can't swing the 80+K for the program at this point in our lives, especially in the high cost of living area where we currently reside. If you need to take a year off, I totally understand that. You have the rest of your life to finish your program but only so many years while they're little, so don't feel like you're letting yourself down if you pursue a break or have to go part-time at some point.
Having triplets has made me a tad less ambitious than I used to be, but I'm getting ahead in my career at least at the moment and racking up experience which allows me to feel a bit less unsure of myself. I know I don't fit in with many of the SAHMs I know, but I know many of them are quite intelligent, and many of them have put their careers and education on hold for a while. I totally support that option just as I support others to work and go to school. I must admit that the topics can get a little old for me when I'm with other moms with children, but I know it's because that's their new focus. Good luck!
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spontaneous.bbg Sun May-29-11 02:39 AM
Member since Feb 25th 2011
38 posts
#483770, "RE: Who made it past 36 weeks?"
In response to Reply # 36
Hi Hope,
Thanks for the support!I fully agree with you. I've been in contact with some really amazing and intelligent triplet moms (many of whom are SAHMs), and they have already helped me so much.
I wish I could stay home, but I would get lost in the program if I stopped for a year - it's the statistics part that makes it difficult for me. Plus, I'm in my 30's so it does feel like now or never. If it's too hard, than as a last resort I'll have to drop out, but it's so hard to think about after dedicating 7 years to it. I'm also in the UC system, but my tuition is waived and I get paid for teaching, making it easier for us to afford the nanny (she gets my entire salary!), and for me stay in the program. But, we'll see. If I could, I'd put it off until the triplets were in school.
Esther
http://www.spontaneoustriplets.com
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KristisCrew Sun May-29-11 03:26 AM
Member since Jul 19th 2005
352 posts
#483772, "RE: Who made it past 36 weeks?"
In response to Reply # 41
Hi! I didn't make it past 36 (had them at 35 scheduled) but wanted to tell you that I looked at your blog - where in MN are you from can I ask? I am also from MN.
Congrats on your pregnancy and best wishes to you with everything! You can do it (babies, phD, etc!)!!
Kristi's Crew
Leah 5/99
Bailey 7/00
Adam, Brielle & Carson 10/03
Luke 7/05
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