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amlink
Wed Mar-28-07 07:04 PM
Member since Jul 18th 2005
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#268950, "Not trying to start more trouble but..."

I LIKE Triplet Connection...with all of the personalities on it! Just because we all have triplets does not make us all the same type of mom.

BUT, I have to agree with Tiffani...this is not a "People Who Have Three Children Connection." I have plenty of friends with three kids, but none completely understand what I go through on a daily basis with three 19 month olds! I am sure that having three children closely spaced presents its own unique challenges, but it is NOT THE SAME THING!

I go through this issue with a friend of mine quite frequently, so maybe I just am more sensitive...but when she told that we "were in the same boat," I just about lost it...I looked around my boat and didn't see two children, ages 10 months and 26 months!

Please, anyone with special circumstances, do not take offense...all I am trying to say is that I like the fact that there is a place where I can go to vent, seek help, etc. where other folks understand what I am talking about!

Just my two cents...

Alice
GGG born 9/3/05 at 35w3d

http://lilypie.com>

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naomi
Wed Mar-28-07 09:24 PM
Member since Jul 18th 2005
930 posts


#268995, "RE: Not trying to start more trouble but..."
In response to Reply # 0

I agree with you, Alice. However, I got flamed up the wahoo in the past for gently stating the same thought. I can still feel the hurt from that flaming.
Naomi
gbb 7-12-02

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Anonymous
Wed Mar-28-07 09:31 PM
Member since Mar 28th 2007
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#268998, "RE: Not trying to start more trouble but..."
In response to Reply # 0

Alice, can I just jump in through my computer and give you a great big cyberhug? I agree. It's NOT the same thing. If it were, then why would there be a need for Triplet Connection anyway? Thank you for sticking your neck out and saying what I (and many more) want to say. I saw a woman in a grocery store who told me she had three grandchildren one year apart. She took care of them and it was the same thing as having triplets. My DD jumped in and said, unless you have triplets, you DON'T know what you're talking about.

I agree. Three in a row, Irish Triplet, twins and another, whatever - it's NOT the same thing. And I won't apologize to those with different circumstances, the same way I won't apologize for being female, being white, being a mom, having my sight, not being parapalegic, or anything else some group may be offended by. Sorry. We have what we have. We are what we are.
Irish Triplets - JUST THE SAME AS YOUR TRIPLETS

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cdemp
Wed Mar-28-07 09:42 PM
Member since Jul 18th 2005
1066 posts


#269002, "RE: Not trying to start more trouble but..."
In response to Reply # 0

You should probably direct your concern to Jeff and Janet. In the past, they have stated that this forum is not exclusively for parents of triplets. -- Gloria

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julie123
Thu Mar-29-07 12:02 AM
Member since Jun 13th 2006
551 posts


#269031, "RE: Not trying to start more trouble but..."
In response to Reply # 3
Thu Mar-29-07 12:16 AM by julie123

You should probably direct your concern to Jeff and Janet. In the past, they have stated that this forum is not exclusively for parents of triplets. -- Gloria


What the heck is the point of this website then?
WHY THE HELL DO THEY CALL IT THE TRIPLET CONNECTION? It's not the Irish twins connection, or the irish triplets connection. The word IRISH isn't in the name of this website. Why is this so hard to comprehend?

If I wanted to talk to other parents who have 3 children a year apart, I can find enough around my neighborhood and at work. I want to talk to other TRIPLET moms. This is rediculious.

However, I will extend MY OPINION to include "once a mom of triplets, always a mom of triplets" for those who have experienced the unfortunate situation of loosing one or two or three babies. But having twins and then a singleton, or three singletons or whatever else you want to try and call it, is not acceptable to be considered a triplet mom, no matter how you try to dress it up.

There are other sites that exist for that i'm sure, but not this one.
Julie wife to Mark and mom to

Tristan Declan 4lbs 3oz
Cassandra Madison 4lbs 7oz
Ryland Markus 4lbs 2oz
Born on 9/5/06 at 32 weeks 4 days
www.cysticfibrosismaleinfertility.com

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cdemp
Thu Mar-29-07 06:44 AM
Member since Jul 18th 2005
1066 posts


#269059, "RE: Not trying to start more trouble but..."
In response to Reply # 6


"What the heck is the point of this website then? "

If it bothers you that much, ask them. Since it's not my website, I can't answer your question.

I agree that having triplets isn't the same as have 2 or 3 children close in age. -- Gloria

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tripplefun
Wed Mar-28-07 11:29 PM
Member since Jul 18th 2005
841 posts


#269025, "RE: Not trying to start more trouble but..."
In response to Reply # 0

I couldnt agree with you more. I am not saying that grandmothers, aunts, nannies, etc. cant or shouldnt post here, however i think there should be a seperate forum for that. This is a board for triplets, quads and more. Not more than 4 kids of different ages however.

Just an example I will use here, being someone that has never lost a child would never go to the bereaved board and post, or even read. If someone has a legit question, and needs an answer, post it on the vets board, however since ive been on the vets board and your kids are 4 or 5 years of age,and under, you were not a vet mom. Having kids different in age 16 years old or not doesnt make you a vet mom of triplets. Just an example.

Someone with 4 kids all a year or less apart im age does not make them quads. I just love how certain members here think its ok for anyone to post, yet the very next person/memger/poster comes along and wants to do the same yet its not ok for the 2nd poster.

Triplets, quads, and more... it should stay that way.
This is just my opinion. Lets see if this too gets pulled.
Sandy, mom to

Matt just turned 18, It cant be, my baby cannot be 18 already!

We just had a birthday
Sydney 7
Morgan 7
Cade 7

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4b4me
Wed Mar-28-07 11:57 PM
Member since Jul 18th 2005
102 posts


#269028, "RE: Not trying to start more trouble but..."
In response to Reply # 0

OK,
Sorry to play devil's advocate here, but what about the people that adopt three that are within a year of each other - months, days, where are we going to draw the line? I am sure someone who has three little boys 21 days apart has many of the same issues I have or had, I would hate to turn them away becasue they weren't born of the same womb on the same day. I have a friend who had her daughter a full 24 days before her twin brothers - would she be excluded? What about, sorry to bring it up, but those who lose any of their children? Should they not be allowed to share their neonatal wisdom because they no longer have all three children here on Earth? I do understand where you are coming from with the "Irish triplets" thing, but I would mildly suggest to you to do what I do when I read the local paper - I only read what I am interested in, and if I don't like something I see, I stop reading it. Many people on this board have gone through terrible painful experiences to have the children they have, wherever they are. I would hate to add more pain to their journey.
Tiff SAHM to
M (9 - pitcher on dad's baseball team)
D (6 - playing with the dandelions in the outfield)
D (6 - shortstop cuz I'm tough!)
D (6 - catcher, 'cause I have a big mouth, and I do EVERYTHING with M!)

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julie123
Thu Mar-29-07 12:08 AM
Member since Jun 13th 2006
551 posts


#269033, "RE: Not trying to start more trouble but..."
In response to Reply # 5

Sharing a womb would be the definition for me, if one or two babies are born weeks before the other one, so be it as long as they shared a womb at one poing they are triplets.

Adoption within weeks of eachother, that's a tough one. I suppose a case by case basis. As surely they DO have some of the same issues as we do, raising babies/children ALL the same age. But 1 per year doesn't constitute triplets. Find a site for "irish twins" or "irish triplets". Come on now!

What I can't fathom here is why we have to think so freaking hard about this. It's common sense. We shouldn't have to draw a line and post such rediculious things. People should just use common sense and KNOW BETTER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Althoug my new motto is "common sense... isn't so common anymore".
Julie wife to Mark and mom to

Tristan Declan 4lbs 3oz
Cassandra Madison 4lbs 7oz
Ryland Markus 4lbs 2oz
Born on 9/5/06 at 32 weeks 4 days
www.cysticfibrosismaleinfertility.com

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Tracey
Thu Mar-29-07 06:13 AM
Member since Jul 18th 2005
1910 posts


#269054, "RE: Not trying to start more trouble but..."
In response to Reply # 0

Having had Irish twins followed by real triplets (meaning three babies at once!), I can tell you that there is support needed. Some of that guidance is suggestions, but some is compassion and understanding. The first two were actually more challenging (sometimes) b/c they staggered the milestones.

How do we justify grandmas and nannies welcome, but moms of closely-aged sibs not welcome? Seriously? If we want to teach our children compassion and understanding, we first need to be an example. I tell my kids that if you don't want to be around a particular person, ignore them. People cross our paths for a variety of reasons. Perhaps you can change one of these women's lives. Or maybe she has something valuable to offer you.

If we're exclusive should we opt for spanking or nonspanking parents? Bottle vs. breast? Wooden toys vs. PlaySchool?

Let's welcome each person. Let them decide whether they belong here.


Tracey

Michael (10)
Francesca (9)
Matthew, Alexis & Gabrielle (7)
Torunn (Norwegian DD,19)
Johannes (upcoming German DS,15)

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albentrip
Thu Mar-29-07 06:31 AM
Member since Jul 18th 2005
222 posts


#269055, "RE: Not trying to start more trouble but..."
In response to Reply # 8

But there is a difference between having Irish twins followed by TRIPLETS and just having Irish twins. That's the point. You have triplets. I have two that are close in age and triplets too. But when I only had the two close in age I never thought let me check out the twins board since I have so much in common with parents of twins. I didn't.

This is a triplet site. There are other message boards for parents with siblings close in age.

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Colette
Thu Mar-29-07 08:22 AM
Member since Jul 18th 2005
458 posts


#269071, "RE: Not trying to start more trouble but..."
In response to Reply # 9

>But there is a difference between having Irish twins followed
>by TRIPLETS and just having Irish twins. That's the point.
>You have triplets. I have two that are close in age and
>triplets too. But when I only had the two close in age I
>never thought let me check out the twins board since I have so
>much in common with parents of twins. I didn't.
>
>This is a triplet site. There are other message boards for
>parents with siblings close in age.

Totally agree. It's kind of an insult being told you know what we went through, "YOU HAVE NO IDEA", it's completely different. You did not have the complications of a HOM pregnancy, you did not have 3 babies at the same time in the NICU, the issue of feeding all three at once and everything else that goes along with HOM's.
http://lilypie.com>
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DebM
Thu Mar-29-07 08:50 AM
Member since Mar 31st 2006
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#269077, "RE: Not trying to start more trouble but..."
In response to Reply # 0

I agree - it's not the same thing. However I feel they should be able to post here and read posts without anyone making them feel bad about it. If something we say helps them manage their close in age babies, why shouldn't they take advantage of that? Maybe they can learn something we triplet moms do that makes life flow easier.

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Colette
Thu Mar-29-07 09:18 AM
Member since Jul 18th 2005
458 posts


#269078, "RE: Not trying to start more trouble but..."
In response to Reply # 12

>However I feel they should
>be able to post here and read posts without anyone making them
>feel bad about it.

This whole issue only came up because crunchymomto3 apparently just signed up and on her very first day she decided she was going to get into the middle of "The Apology Post". Why would any newbies start off there, not to be rude but basically it wasn't anything she really needed to concern herself with. She hadn't been on this site long enough that she would even know what was going on. So if you are really here for support and info related to mutiples you wouldn't need to go there on your very first day. IMHO
http://lilypie.com>
http://lilypie.com>

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julie123
Thu Mar-29-07 10:10 AM
Member since Jun 13th 2006
551 posts


#269091, "RE: Not trying to start more trouble but..."
In response to Reply # 13

I completey agree. It all boils down to COMMON SENSE and many seem to be lacking in that area. I too was really blindsided by crunchymomto3's postings. For a first time poster on the site, WTF was she doing? She had NO idea what was going on and even stated it in her post, and then continued to let the diarrhea flow freely from her mouth. That's NOT someone coming here for support.
Julie wife to Mark and mom to

Tristan Declan 4lbs 3oz
Cassandra Madison 4lbs 7oz
Ryland Markus 4lbs 2oz
Born on 9/5/06 at 32 weeks 4 days
www.cysticfibrosismaleinfertility.com

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DebM
Thu Mar-29-07 10:24 AM
Member since Mar 31st 2006
481 posts


#269099, "RE: Not trying to start more trouble but..."
In response to Reply # 13

Yes I agree with you. I am referring to others that have been active here that have close in age babies. I wasn't referring to Crunchy mom.
My statement was more "in general".

Luke- 4lb,12oz
Wade - 3lb,4oz
Zoe - 5lb,2oz
Born at 34 weeks








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cybersylvia
Thu Mar-29-07 09:24 AM
Member since Dec 25th 2006
31 posts


#269079, "RE: Not trying to start more trouble but..."
In response to Reply # 0
Thu Mar-29-07 11:06 AM by cybersylvia

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Anonymous
Thu Mar-29-07 09:44 AM
Member since Mar 28th 2007
6 posts


#269085, "RE: Not trying to start more trouble but..."
In response to Reply # 14

If I were your friend and you were watching my baby AND your own 2 my first concern would be,

Why are you playing on the internet?

You do not belong here, it is not fair, you do not have triplets nor did you ever have triplets. We do not go to twins boards and attempt to fit in, cause in reality some of us do have twins within our triplets, ie. 2 ids and 1 frat. This is the crap I am talking about.
Irish Triplets - JUST THE SAME AS YOUR TRIPLETS

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cybersylvia
Thu Mar-29-07 09:50 AM
Member since Dec 25th 2006
31 posts


#269086, "RE: Not trying to start more trouble but..."
In response to Reply # 15

no problem, I will go.

your attitude is your worst problem, imho

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morethemerrier
Thu Mar-29-07 10:04 AM
Member since Jul 18th 2005
1767 posts


#269089, "RE: Not trying to start more trouble but..."
In response to Reply # 15

And YOU do not speak for everyone on this board. Just a select few. If it bothers YOU that she's here... why not go yourself? Or go set up an exclusive site that only permits triplet families... oh wait.. you did that already.
MTM - mom to Michael(84),Stephan(85), Thomas, Matthew and Kathryn - born 12/27/99 at 32w 0 days



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tripletots98
Thu Mar-29-07 10:15 AM
Member since Jul 18th 2005
1195 posts


#269094, "RE: Not trying to start more trouble but..."
In response to Reply # 18

>And YOU do not speak for everyone on this board. Just a
>select few. If it bothers YOU that she's here... why not go
>yourself?

I do not see in the Anon post ANYWHERE that says he/she is speaking for everyone at TC. And perhaps Anon is a TRIPLET parent themselves so why would they have to go?

You seem so hostile.....

Amy~
Paige, Austin & Hailee - 8yrs
10/29/98 34w1d

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morethemerrier
Thu Mar-29-07 10:33 AM
Member since Jul 18th 2005
1767 posts


#269103, "RE: Not trying to start more trouble but..."
In response to Reply # 21

How did you arrive at hostility? And unless Anon said.. "I think you should go" or "I think you don't belong here" .. a blanket statement that "you do not belong here" is indeed speaking for the board.

I don't own this board. Janet and Jeff do.

You don't own this board. Janet and Jeff do.

Anonymous doesn't own this board. Janet and Jeff do.

It is not our place to tell ANYONE that they are unwelcome here. We are all guests of Janet and Jeff.

Janet and Jeff have stated on this board more than a few times that everyone is welcome.

For those that want exclusivity....the answer is rather simple. Find a site that is exclusive and hang out there.
MTM - mom to Michael(84),Stephan(85), Thomas, Matthew and Kathryn - born 12/27/99 at 32w 0 days



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tripletots98
Thu Mar-29-07 10:43 AM
Member since Jul 18th 2005
1195 posts


#269106, "RE: Not trying to start more trouble but..."
In response to Reply # 26
Thu Mar-29-07 10:48 AM by tripletots98

>How did you arrive at hostility?

YOU & YOU capitalized = screaming

>a blanket statement that "you do not belong here" is indeed
>speaking for the board.

I believe this would be the personal opinion of the OP...not a blanket statement to cover every member!

Can you remind us again, who owns the board?

Amy~
Paige, Austin & Hailee - 8yrs
10/29/98 34w1d

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julie123
Thu Mar-29-07 10:46 AM
Member since Jun 13th 2006
551 posts


#269107, "RE: Not trying to start more trouble but..."
In response to Reply # 29

Jeff and janet may "own" the board, but they wouldn't be here WITHOUT US! Therefore, they OWE it to us to keep this board here for it's purpose, for TRIPLET parents.

A doctor may own his practice, but he would be NOTHING without his patients. The same rule applies here.
Julie wife to Mark and mom to

Tristan Declan 4lbs 3oz
Cassandra Madison 4lbs 7oz
Ryland Markus 4lbs 2oz
Born on 9/5/06 at 32 weeks 4 days
www.cysticfibrosismaleinfertility.com

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cdemp
Thu Mar-29-07 10:48 AM
Member since Jul 18th 2005
1066 posts


#269108, "RE: Not trying to start more trouble but..."
In response to Reply # 30

LOL, they don't owe you or me anything. Thanks for the laugh. This is getting funnier by the minute. -- Gloria

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julie123
Thu Mar-29-07 10:55 AM
Member since Jun 13th 2006
551 posts


#269110, "RE: Not trying to start more trouble but..."
In response to Reply # 31

Sure they do. if all the posters disappeared, then where would they be? With a freaking triplet board that is useless.
Julie wife to Mark and mom to

Tristan Declan 4lbs 3oz
Cassandra Madison 4lbs 7oz
Ryland Markus 4lbs 2oz
Born on 9/5/06 at 32 weeks 4 days
www.cysticfibrosismaleinfertility.com

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Tracey
Thu Mar-29-07 11:01 AM
Member since Jul 18th 2005
1910 posts


#269113, "RE: Not trying to start more trouble but..."
In response to Reply # 33

Triplet Connection is not just a forum. It's a business. They have set up this board for our convenience, not our exclusivity. They don't make a cent from this board activity, but it sure causes them enough headaches.
Tracey

Michael (10)
Francesca (9)
Matthew, Alexis & Gabrielle (7)
Torunn (Norwegian DD,19)
Johannes (upcoming German DS,15)

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julie123
Thu Mar-29-07 11:42 AM
Member since Jun 13th 2006
551 posts


#269126, "RE: Not trying to start more trouble but..."
In response to Reply # 34

Sure they make money from it, not directly but indirectly by people who stumble across it and then decide to buy products, or joing.
Julie wife to Mark and mom to

Tristan Declan 4lbs 3oz
Cassandra Madison 4lbs 7oz
Ryland Markus 4lbs 2oz
Born on 9/5/06 at 32 weeks 4 days
www.cysticfibrosismaleinfertility.com

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boomom
Thu Mar-29-07 01:06 PM
Member since Jul 18th 2005
1402 posts


#269164, "RE: Not trying to start more trouble but..."
In response to Reply # 34

I agree Tracey! I have been a member of TC since I discovered I was carrying triplets. January 7th of 1997 to be exact,lol!
This board was created as a convenience for us not as a moneymaker. In fact, I remember reading a post of Jeff's in the past saying that this forum actually costs them money.

Gina

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LRB
Thu Mar-29-07 11:11 AM
Member since Jul 18th 2005
909 posts


#269117, "RE: Not trying to start more trouble but..."
In response to Reply # 33

An empty board would be so much better than what's been going on over the past few days/weeks. The Triplet Connection would still be going strong, providing support, education, gathering best practices, etc.

This triplet board isn't their lifeline, it is here for our convenience, obviouslly not theirs!

Robin

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morethemerrier
Thu Mar-29-07 11:23 AM
Member since Jul 18th 2005
1767 posts


#269120, "RE: Not trying to start more trouble but..."
In response to Reply # 33

ah, but not all of the posters would disappear. Again with some of you making choices or spaking for all of us.

Really, some of us wish that some of you would, but the final choice is yours.
MTM - mom to Michael(84),Stephan(85), Thomas, Matthew and Kathryn - born 12/27/99 at 32w 0 days



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tripletots98
Thu Mar-29-07 11:47 AM
Member since Jul 18th 2005
1195 posts


#269130, "RE: Not trying to start more trouble but..."
In response to Reply # 39

>ah, but not all of the posters would disappear. Again with
>some of you making choices or spaking for all of us.
>
>Really, some of us wish that some of you would, but the final
>choice is yours.


HUH?

Amy~
Paige, Austin & Hailee - 8yrs
10/29/98 34w1d

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LRB
Thu Mar-29-07 11:06 AM
Member since Jul 18th 2005
909 posts


#269115, "RE: Not trying to start more trouble but..."
In response to Reply # 31

Now I'm getting hostile.

You see, I've been involved with the Triplet Connection - not the forum, but the not-for-profit entity for over 8 years - longer than the forum was in existence. We owe Jeff and Janet, parents of triplets, and founders and operators of Triplet Connection more respect than any of this. Triplet Connection is far more than this forum and will continue to be far more than this forum and to think that Triplet Connection, or Jeff and Janet for that matter, wouldn't be anything without "us" is giving yourself way too much credit.

Actually, this forum has turned into a bickering few who are trying to redefine it in such a public manner. Triplet Connection is a corporate entity that reaches far beyond the few on this Forum.

If you truly dislike this board so much, leave it, at least for awhile. Good Grief, Janet has buried her mom within the last few days. Let's all find the high road and take it for a few days!

Robin

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6BlueEyes
Thu Mar-29-07 11:01 AM
Member since Jul 18th 2005
186 posts


#269114, "RE: Not trying to start more trouble but..."
In response to Reply # 30

Are you for real? In the midst of all of the stupid comments flying around, that has to be the dumbest. The people that agree with your position must be so proud of you using that logic to make their case.

Thank you Julie123 for making my life so comlete by posting on this board. The hell with the people that have actually been doing the work to keep this organization running for all of these years.

This whole thing is embarassing!

Kelly
Ben, Jack & Drew 05/28/02
Charlie 07/06/06

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julie123
Thu Mar-29-07 11:44 AM
Member since Jun 13th 2006
551 posts


#269128, "RE: Not trying to start more trouble but..."
In response to Reply # 35

of course I'm for real, why the heck would I post it if I wasn't. Sure there are behind the scene things going on, that goes without saying. But if nobody participated in this board, it woudn't exist. Surely it doesn't take a genius to figure that out. Therefore, as posting members of this board, they do have a responsibility to us who "keep it alive" to ensure that it's existance fulfills it's purpose.

I'm glad I could make your life so complete
Julie wife to Mark and mom to

Tristan Declan 4lbs 3oz
Cassandra Madison 4lbs 7oz
Ryland Markus 4lbs 2oz
Born on 9/5/06 at 32 weeks 4 days
www.cysticfibrosismaleinfertility.com

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LRB
Thu Mar-29-07 11:54 AM
Member since Jul 18th 2005
909 posts


#269135, "RE: Not trying to start more trouble but..."
In response to Reply # 41

Behind the scenes? The Triplet Connection has been around since 1983. I believe the boards are less than 7 years old. For those of you who only know Triplet Connection because of the boards, you are really missing out of 99% of what Triplet Connection really does. They owe no responsibility to keep the boards alive. The Triplet Connection certainly doesn't rely on these boards to fulfill its purpose. The boards are for our convenience, and a method of outreach, not the sole purpose or responsibility of Triplet Connection. You are giving yourself way too much credit.

Robin

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morethemerrier
Thu Mar-29-07 12:21 PM
Member since Jul 18th 2005
1767 posts


#269147, "RE: Not trying to start more trouble but..."
In response to Reply # 44

Wasn't this board an offshoot of an older dial up board? I've been here since 11/00, and I think there was a good year or more in the archives at that point.
MTM - mom to Michael(84),Stephan(85), Thomas, Matthew and Kathryn - born 12/27/99 at 32w 0 days



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LRB
Thu Mar-29-07 12:36 PM
Member since Jul 18th 2005
909 posts


#269151, "RE: Not trying to start more trouble but..."
In response to Reply # 46

There well could have been. I don't remember specifics, but I don't think the forum existed in it's current interactive state when I was pregnant in 1998. I remember a time when there were several questions that were updated periodically - sort of like a FAQ with comments that were submitted. It wasn't interactive at that time.

I was only trying to make the point that the Triplet Connection has been operated by a set of parents to triplets long before an interactive forum became a part of it. There are many of us who appreciated the Triplet Connection before the forum and anyone who thinks that the forum is the mainstay or bread and butter of Triplet Connection are misinformed.

Robin

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Ma Kettle
Thu Mar-29-07 09:52 AM
Member since Jul 18th 2005
454 posts


#269087, "RE: Not trying to start more trouble but..."
In response to Reply # 0

I asked a rather simple question yesterday which I think is what spurred this. I simply stated that although I was pregnant with hom I only came home with 2. My next child is a mere 6 month developmental difference to the boys and this is where my 'caring for multiples' experience comes from. I didn't get experience doing daily life and care of 3 infants, 3 toddlers by being pg with multiples. I got that experience through experiencing raising 3 infants, 3 toddlers.

Does that make my experience and advice on caring for 3 same aged children less useful? Should I be restricted to only giving advice on pregnancy related issues? (since they are not actually 'triplets') Is my advice on caring for 3 infants/toddlers only acceptable because I was pg with multiples (which wipes out all adoptive triplet parents or surrogates as potential advice givers) or because I actually have experience with multiple infants? Am I wasting my time posting suggestions that are just passed over without reading because my third baby only lived 2 hours and my younger infant 'doesn't count'?

Keep in mind before answering.... we hear all the time that 'they are not one whole, they are individuals'. Each of your triplets is an individual as well as part of a group. They have their own milestones and personalities and some don't even look like siblings let alone multiples. Some triplet moms deal with 1 or more being drastically behind the others in development due to disabilities whether they are temporary or permanent. (Much like having 2 1yr olds and a 6 mo old) with the only similarity being they were born on the same day.

I do agree having 3 in 2 years is NOWHERE NEAR 'similar' to triplets. And the 'irish triplets' person who was here didn't even have them that close - 2 were 18 mo apart and the other was more than 2 years apart for a total of almost 4 years between 1st and 3rd. NOWHERE CLOSE. But there IS a point where having 3 VERY close in age IS similar in MOST ways if you look past the pregnancy and NICU stage (which adoptive parents didn't go through either and many triplet parents also did not require NICU stays)

When my 3rd was born 9 months after my preemies I was breastfeeding 3infants, had 3 infants on heart monitors, I was carrying 3 infants to the vehicle to go anywhere, I was still getting up every 3 hours for nighttime feedings for 3, I still had 3 INFANTS who were completely dependent on me. They are 2 and 1 1/2 right now and developmentally my youngest is right in the middle. She is ahead of one boy and behind the other. They gave up bottles together, they potty trained together, they moved to toddler beds together, and they participate in speech therapy together. Because of their birthdates they will all qualify for kindergarten the same time and therefore will have the same problems of whether to keep them in the same classes or split them up, siblings in the classroom, rivalry... all the same issues. The family stresses of meeting the demands of 3 children the same age and stages.....

And no... there are no other sites or resources for 'close aged siblings'. I've been to the 'large family' places and the average between siblings is 18-24 months (natural spacing w/ breastfeeding). Which I'm sure you'll all agree a toddler and an infant and a preschooler is NOWHERE NEAR the same as 3 infants.
http://lilypie.com>

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julie123
Thu Mar-29-07 10:12 AM
Member since Jun 13th 2006
551 posts


#269092, "RE: Not trying to start more trouble but..."
In response to Reply # 17

And no... there are no other sites or resources for 'close aged siblings'. I've been to the 'large family' places and the average between siblings is 18-24 months (natural spacing w/ breastfeeding). Which I'm sure you'll all agree a toddler and an infant and a preschooler is NOWHERE NEAR the same as 3 infants.

So start one then.
Julie wife to Mark and mom to

Tristan Declan 4lbs 3oz
Cassandra Madison 4lbs 7oz
Ryland Markus 4lbs 2oz
Born on 9/5/06 at 32 weeks 4 days
www.cysticfibrosismaleinfertility.com

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albentrip
Thu Mar-29-07 12:16 PM
Member since Jul 18th 2005
222 posts


#269143, "RE: Not trying to start more trouble but..."
In response to Reply # 20
Thu Mar-29-07 12:19 PM by albentrip

Actually, there is a "close aged siblings" message board on iVillage, if anyone is interested in that.

edited to say that I should have put this in response to the one above!

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Anonymous
Thu Mar-29-07 10:23 AM
Member since Mar 28th 2007
6 posts


#269096, "RE: Not trying to start more trouble but..."
In response to Reply # 17

Ma Kettle YOU are a drama whore. Drop it already. NO ONE said you didn't have triplets cause you do, they are surviving triplets. I don't care if you birthed them out your butt, they're triplets. I have yet to see you answer a post with advice, just complaints.

TC does not revolve around you, this did not start because of you. If you would have paid attention instead of complaining then you would know that already. DROP IT!!!
Irish Triplets - JUST THE SAME AS YOUR TRIPLETS

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madmolly
Thu Mar-29-07 10:38 AM
Member since Oct 07th 2005
1387 posts


#269104, "RE: Not trying to start more trouble but..."
In response to Reply # 22

LOL! Okay, for the record, "drama whore" is my word, but I am NOT the PP!!! LOL! I AM JUST WAKING UP AND CHECKIN THE BOARDS!!!

DON'T SLAM ME FOR THAT ONE!!!! LOL!
Lea
bgg 1/22/06 @ 28.3 weeks
g 6/04 @ 34 weeks
g 7/99
g 6/97

http://killertomatoandthepeapodsquad.blogspot.com/

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julie123
Thu Mar-29-07 10:24 AM
Member since Jun 13th 2006
551 posts


#269098, "RE: Not trying to start more trouble but..."
In response to Reply # 17

ma kettle,

I thought you said you were leaving? If so, and if you are assisting in causing so much drama, why not go? Please do if that is your only purpose here.
Julie wife to Mark and mom to

Tristan Declan 4lbs 3oz
Cassandra Madison 4lbs 7oz
Ryland Markus 4lbs 2oz
Born on 9/5/06 at 32 weeks 4 days
www.cysticfibrosismaleinfertility.com

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Anonymous
Thu Mar-29-07 10:33 AM
Member since Mar 28th 2007
6 posts


#269102, "Ma Kettle = TROUBLE"
In response to Reply # 17

You're just a little troublemaker aren't ya?

Quote:
Originally Posted by Ma Kettle
I won't be posting anything personal anymore. Including what I do with my kids and how I handle certain situations. I share these details with people here in the hopes that I can help others and occasionally to brag or vent. It's intended purpose is personal usage. Not public reproduction. Posting things here I know anyone can see it and that doesn't bother me too much. There is a limited risk of it being used maliciously. But KNOWING there is someone here who WILL and DOES use posts maliciously it's no longer a 'limited risk'. And since I don't care to copyright everything I will just have to ensure I don't write anything personal at all.



Reply from TWINS member:
Oh for crying out loud Heather GET OVER IT. You were QUOTED. Big fecking deal. You were QUOTED accurately and you got pissed because it made you look bad. So you're trying to blame this all on Media which is horseshit.

As someone I respect used to say many times, they were your words and these are your actions - OWN THEM.

With 11 and a half kids how do you have time to cause all this trouble???
Irish Triplets - JUST THE SAME AS YOUR TRIPLETS

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Ma Kettle
Thu Mar-29-07 10:55 AM
Member since Jul 18th 2005
454 posts


#269109, "RE: Ma Kettle = TROUBLE"
In response to Reply # 25

Is that all you can come up with? No answers just quoting out of context from another board on a completely unrelated topic? Again?
http://lilypie.com>

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julie123
Thu Mar-29-07 11:49 AM
Member since Jun 13th 2006
551 posts


#269132, "RE: Ma Kettle = TROUBLE"
In response to Reply # 32

On other TWIN websites you clearly state you have twins, baby A and baby B. I have yet to see a mention of a baby C. Are you for real? If you have TWINS and are finding fullfillment there, why come here? Plus, I see you create the same drama over there that you do here. what is your real purpose of being here?
Julie wife to Mark and mom to

Tristan Declan 4lbs 3oz
Cassandra Madison 4lbs 7oz
Ryland Markus 4lbs 2oz
Born on 9/5/06 at 32 weeks 4 days
www.cysticfibrosismaleinfertility.com

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paula3
Thu Mar-29-07 10:41 AM
Member since Jan 24th 2007
15 posts


#269105, "RE: Not trying to start more trouble but..."
In response to Reply # 0

I really don't see what the big deal here is. I agree it's annoying when someone with closely-spaced kids tells me that it's the same for them as for me. But why assume that if someone comes here because they need advice on triple strollers or minivans or crib tents that they're saying that. Some may be, but most aren't. This is a public forum where people exchange all kinds of advice. You can always join a like-age email group if you want an exclusive little group. (I love mine!)

Of course having triplets has it's own unique challenges. But I'd be surprised if any two members here can honestly say they know just what the other's life is like. Moms with older and younger children, single parents, disabilities, etc., etc. have very different experiences. Still, for the most part, everyone is able to support and learn from each other without having to say, "I know just what it's like."

Since there are lots of different circumstances out there and no clear consensus on who has a "legitimate" right to be here or not, why not err on the side of compassion? If someone tells you that having similar aged singletons is "just the same" you can ignore them or politely tell them it's not. But if they're asking for advice on diaper pails or strollers, what's the harm in sharing some wisdom?

Paula
b/g/b 11/00

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ChelleBelle
Thu Mar-29-07 11:10 AM
Member since Sep 20th 2006
277 posts


#269116, "RE: Not trying to start more trouble but..."
In response to Reply # 0

This site has amazing info that could potentially help others that aren't HOM's. That being said, there are a lot of websites out there that have helpful information for specific groups. For example, the 12 step programs have great info. I know a few people who aren't alcoholics, but could sure use some of those steps. But do they go? NO because they aren't alcoholics. If you were going to be a designated driver would you go to an AA meeting to find out how to not drink for one night? Those meetings are usually open to the public but don't think for one minute you wouldn't offend a lot of people in there who go there for serious support.

So, if you find this website helpful to your own situation fine. But please don't post in response to my questions and not identify yourself as not being a HOM. Not saying anyone has, but to avoid issues in the future. I have plenty of parenting online resources that I use for non-triplet issues. I come here because no one else will ever truly understand what it is like to have three babies the same age at once. Not even a twin mom can understand what it is like.

My feelings don't apply to those who have experienced the horror of losing a child. As a PP said, once a HOM always a HOM.





Michelle
Mom to Sam, Charlotte and Jacob
Born June 14, 2006 @ 29 weeks 6 days

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lovemy5boys
Thu Mar-29-07 01:00 PM
Member since Nov 26th 2006
226 posts


#269161, "RE: Not trying to start more trouble but..."
In response to Reply # 37

I have managed to stay out of the drama so far but I have to say this...

Thank you! Thanks for letting me escape my crazy madness I call life for a few minutes and have a little chuckle. There is drama created about the drama here lately.

Seriously, I'm saying this with a smile on my face. This is DOPE! I'm LMAO!

So thanks! Now, back to H3LL! Yes, I did just cal my life H3LL
proud mom to
DS 5
DS 2
BBB 9/29/06






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lovemy5boys
Thu Mar-29-07 01:00 PM
Member since Nov 26th 2006
226 posts


#269162, "RE: Not trying to start more trouble but..."
In response to Reply # 37

I have managed to stay out of the drama so far but I have to say this...

Thank you! Thanks for letting me escape my crazy madness I call life for a few minutes and have a little chuckle. There is drama created about the drama here lately.

Seriously, I'm saying this with a smile on my face. This is DOPE! I'm LMAO!

So thanks! Now, back to H3LL! Yes, I did just cal my life H3LL
proud mom to
DS 5
DS 2
BBB 9/29/06






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