March 30 2007 Calling for new security rules

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Catw3kittens
Fri Mar-30-07 07:20 PM
Member since Jul 18th 2005
3587 posts


#269518, "CALLING FOR NEW SECURITY RULES"

I have been a member of this forum for four years now and I have never seen the type of terrible behavior that I have just witnessed on a post that is very likely to be pulled in short order. Personal attacks are unnecessary and hateful and have no place on a forum such as this.

I personally would like to have some form of security put in place where an offender would get one gentle notice; one official warning; and, then be barred from the forum for behavior that is designed to dismantle this board. Personal attacks, including the posting of photographs that one does not personally own, and interrupting an ongoing discussion for purposes of turning the post into a flame-war/cat fight -- these things are not acceptable.

Perhaps we also need to have better screening in place when it comes to accepting new members. It's unfortunate that people are focused on things having nothing to do with caring for children, whether that be on camping trips or in how to feed so many infants at once. But it is clear that there are people with nasty agendas that have nothing to do with supporting this site and that is very sad.

Tiff, when you see this post, please shoot me an e-mail. I cannot find your profile or I would have sent a head's up to you.

Cat w/3 Kittens
Caidan, Carina and Caeleigh
Born at 31 weeks, 1/8/04.
It is better to have loved and lost, than never to have loved at all. In memory of Carina, who was greatly loved.

http://b3.lilypie.com/bDA

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RE: CALLING FOR NEW SECURITY RULES, 3D Montana Mama, Mar 30th 2007, #1
RE: CALLING FOR NEW SECURITY RULES, LisaM817, Mar 30th 2007, #2
RE: CALLING FOR NEW SECURITY RULES, lorilou, Mar 30th 2007, #3
RE: CALLING FOR NEW SECURITY RULES, Catw3kittens, Mar 30th 2007, #4
RE: CALLING FOR NEW SECURITY RULES, Triplethefun04, Mar 30th 2007, #7
RE: CALLING FOR NEW SECURITY RULES, lorilou, Mar 30th 2007, #8
RE: CALLING FOR NEW SECURITY RULES, jonib, Mar 30th 2007, #9
RE: CALLING FOR NEW SECURITY RULES, lorilou, Mar 30th 2007, #10
RE: CALLING FOR NEW SECURITY RULES, jonib, Mar 30th 2007, #11
RE: CALLING FOR NEW SECURITY RULES, jonib, Mar 30th 2007, #12
RE: CALLING FOR NEW SECURITY RULES, 3D Montana Mama, Mar 30th 2007, #13
RE: CALLING FOR NEW SECURITY RULES, jonib, Mar 30th 2007, #14
RE: CALLING FOR NEW SECURITY RULES, Annie3, Mar 30th 2007, #15
Here's the thing..., tripletots98, Mar 30th 2007, #36
RE: Here's the thing..., lorilou, Mar 30th 2007, #54
RE: Here's the thing..., jonib, Mar 30th 2007, #57
RE: CALLING FOR NEW SECURITY RULES, tulip, Mar 30th 2007, #16
RE: CALLING FOR NEW SECURITY RULES, Prairie3, Mar 30th 2007, #17
RE: CALLING FOR NEW SECURITY RULES, julie123, Mar 30th 2007, #18
RE: CALLING FOR NEW SECURITY RULES, 3D Montana Mama, Mar 30th 2007, #19
RE: CALLING FOR NEW SECURITY RULES, julie123, Mar 30th 2007, #20
RE: CALLING FOR NEW SECURITY RULES, Laurene, Mar 30th 2007, #21
RE: CALLING FOR NEW SECURITY RULES, madmolly, Mar 30th 2007, #24
RE: Volunteers?, HOWMANY, Mar 30th 2007, #30
RE: Volunteers?, Laurene, Mar 30th 2007, #32
RE: Volunteers?, Prairie3, Mar 30th 2007, #35
RE: Volunteers?, tulip, Mar 30th 2007, #38
RE: Volunteers?, Triplethefun04, Mar 30th 2007, #40
RE: Volunteers?, DebM, Mar 30th 2007, #42
RE: Volunteers?, Triplethefun04, Mar 30th 2007, #71
RE: Volunteers?, sushannah, Mar 30th 2007, #73
RE: Volunteers?, 6BlueEyes, Mar 30th 2007, #83
RE: CALLING FOR NEW SECURITY RULES, JenniferP, Mar 30th 2007, #22
RE: CALLING FOR NEW SECURITY RULES, jonib, Mar 30th 2007, #23
RE: CALLING FOR NEW SECURITY RULES, ShanAZ, Mar 30th 2007, #26
RE: CALLING FOR NEW SECURITY RULES, Laurene, Mar 30th 2007, #27
RE: CALLING FOR NEW SECURITY RULES, ShanAZ, Mar 30th 2007, #28
RE: CALLING FOR NEW SECURITY RULES, Laurene, Mar 30th 2007, #31
RE: CALLING FOR NEW SECURITY RULES, lorilou, Mar 30th 2007, #43
RE: CALLING FOR NEW SECURITY RULES, ShanAZ, Mar 30th 2007, #44
RE: CALLING FOR NEW SECURITY RULES, 3D Montana Mama, Mar 30th 2007, #29
RE: CALLING FOR NEW SECURITY RULES, HOWMANY, Mar 30th 2007, #34
RE: CALLING FOR NEW SECURITY RULES, tulip, Mar 30th 2007, #33
RE: CALLING FOR NEW SECURITY RULES, SunshineAnn, Mar 30th 2007, #50
RE: CALLING FOR NEW SECURITY RULES, alimae, Mar 30th 2007, #51
RE: CALLING FOR NEW SECURITY RULES, Triplethefun04, Mar 30th 2007, #70
RE: CALLING FOR NEW SECURITY RULES, AngelP, Mar 30th 2007, #25
RE: CALLING FOR NEW SECURITY RULES, Mom2aej, Mar 30th 2007, #37
RE: CALLING FOR NEW SECURITY RULES, JenniferP, Mar 30th 2007, #47
RE: CALLING FOR NEW SECURITY RULES, Catw3kittens, Mar 30th 2007, #39
RE: CALLING FOR NEW SECURITY RULES, stephkessler, Mar 30th 2007, #45
RE: CALLING FOR NEW SECURITY RULES, JenniferP, Mar 30th 2007, #48
RE: CALLING FOR NEW SECURITY RULES, stephkessler, Mar 30th 2007, #58
RE: CALLING FOR NEW SECURITY RULES, Tasha, Mar 30th 2007, #77
RE: CALLING FOR NEW SECURITY RULES, jonib, Mar 30th 2007, #78
RE: CALLING FOR NEW SECURITY RULES, Triplethefun04, Mar 30th 2007, #80
RE: CALLING FOR NEW SECURITY RULES, DebM, Mar 30th 2007, #49
RE: CALLING FOR NEW SECURITY RULES, jonib, Mar 30th 2007, #53
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RE: CALLING FOR NEW SECURITY RULES, ZwickJB, Mar 30th 2007, #59
RE: CALLING FOR NEW SECURITY RULES, julytrips, Mar 30th 2007, #60
RE: CALLING FOR NEW SECURITY RULES, jonib, Mar 30th 2007, #62
RE: CALLING FOR NEW SECURITY RULES, ZwickJB, Mar 30th 2007, #64
RE: CALLING FOR NEW SECURITY RULES, DebM, Mar 30th 2007, #61
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RE: CALLING FOR NEW SECURITY RULES, jonib, Mar 30th 2007, #67
RE: CALLING FOR NEW SECURITY RULES, julytrips, Mar 30th 2007, #66
RE: CALLING FOR NEW SECURITY RULES, Tasha, Mar 30th 2007, #82
RE: CALLING FOR NEW SECURITY RULES, SunshineAnn, Mar 30th 2007, #52
RE: CALLING FOR NEW SECURITY RULES, stephkessler, Mar 30th 2007, #63
RE: CALLING FOR NEW SECURITY RULES, Triplethefun04, Mar 30th 2007, #72
RE: CALLING FOR NEW SECURITY RULES, Tracey, Mar 30th 2007, #46
RE: CALLING FOR NEW SECURITY RULES, Nikki1979, Mar 30th 2007, #55
RE: CALLING FOR NEW SECURITY RULES, madmolly, Mar 30th 2007, #68
RE: CALLING FOR NEW SECURITY RULES, HOWMANY, Mar 30th 2007, #69
RE: CALLING FOR NEW SECURITY RULES, lorilou, Mar 30th 2007, #75
RE: CALLING FOR NEW SECURITY RULES, jonib, Mar 30th 2007, #76
RE: CALLING FOR NEW SECURITY RULES, lorilou, Mar 30th 2007, #79
RE: CALLING FOR NEW SECURITY RULES, jonib, Mar 30th 2007, #81
RE: CALLING FOR NEW SECURITY RULES, Triplethefun04, Mar 30th 2007, #74



3D Montana Mama
Fri Mar-30-07 02:18 PM
Member since Jul 18th 2005
446 posts


#269537, "RE: CALLING FOR NEW SECURITY RULES"
In response to Reply # 0

Cat,
Thank you for this post! I agree 100%!!

Cynthia
DS-7/99
BBB born 8/04 at 31 4/7 weeks

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LisaM817
Fri Mar-30-07 02:19 PM
Member since Jul 18th 2005
1357 posts


#269539, "RE: CALLING FOR NEW SECURITY RULES"
In response to Reply # 0

Cat:

I couldn't agree with you more. This is my 6th year here and most issues have blown over after a few days, but this doesn't appear to be the case since the "attacks" seem to be more organized.

There needs to be very clear terms of service (tos) that are consistently enforced. People on this board are deserving of protection and that is what TOS can do. People shouldn't be able to sign up for new ID's and hide behind them to launch attacks. I don't know if Jeff and Janet have the potential to block IP addresses, but the way things are going that could be a temporary solution. Additionally, this board needs to be actively moderated by more than one or two people so that hurtful posts can be pulled more quickly. Too much damage is being done when posts are left standing for extended periods of time.

This whole situations just saddens me because it shows such disrespect for Janet and Jeff, as well as well intending posters here.

Lisa
Mom to Aidan, Christian, and Rachel (10.03.01 @ 36wks)

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lorilou
Fri Mar-30-07 02:20 PM
Member since Jul 18th 2005
394 posts


#269541, "RE: CALLING FOR NEW SECURITY RULES"
In response to Reply # 0

I total agree Cat! I've been here even longer than you and I am amazed at the behavior I've seen the past few weeks.

Just about every post that is made on this board is "mocked" on TDC -- that's everything from wagons, cribs tents, etc.. Even Tulip's sincere request for prayer and peace was ridiculed - it made me sick.

I personally want these members gone. They are so proud of being "snarky" but yet most of them hide behind other usernames. I don't know who to trust on this board anymore...


Lori --
Mom to Zac (9/91) and triplets Noah, Karissa & Jazmine (5/98 at 27 weeks)

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Catw3kittens
Fri Mar-30-07 02:25 PM
Member since Jul 18th 2005
3587 posts


#269545, "RE: CALLING FOR NEW SECURITY RULES"
In response to Reply # 3

What is "TDC?"

Cat w/3 Kittens
Caidan, Carina and Caeleigh
Born at 31 weeks, 1/8/04.
It is better to have loved and lost, than never to have loved at all. In memory of Carina, who was greatly loved.

http://b3.lilypie.com/bDA

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Triplethefun04
Fri Mar-30-07 02:48 PM
Member since Jul 18th 2005
83 posts


#269554, "RE: CALLING FOR NEW SECURITY RULES"
In response to Reply # 6

What's the word everyone loves?? hmmmm

Michelle
(formerly known as bsebllmom9 )

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lorilou
Fri Mar-30-07 03:01 PM
Member since Jul 18th 2005
394 posts


#269562, "RE: CALLING FOR NEW SECURITY RULES"
In response to Reply # 6

Two reasons...

One - because she asked, and Two - because I think it's wrong.

Do you really think it's okay for members to respond to someone's post here pretending to be sincere and then turn around and mock that same person at another site?? For example, go read the "can we also pray" topic which is flat out making fun of Tulip's request for peace here at TC.

Why do I read it?? Because I want to know who the people are to avoid here at TC...plain and simple.

Lori --
Mom to Zac (9/91) and triplets Noah, Karissa & Jazmine (5/98 at 27 weeks)

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jonib
Fri Mar-30-07 03:07 PM
Member since Oct 11th 2005
306 posts


#269567, "RE: CALLING FOR NEW SECURITY RULES"
In response to Reply # 8

You could have pm'd her and kept it off the board...

You can think it's wrong, but don't you think that is one of the reasons TDC started anyway??? people wanted to make light and fun of situations without getting in trouble or hands slapped. It really all began with MOT, the posts were down right ridiculous, over and over and over..but unless you supported with "cyber hugs" you were a meanie.

My point is this...if you really want to avoid tdc...just don't go there...if I didn't like it, I can tell you I wouldn't be caught dead there or anywhere else on the internet for that matter.
Jonib
16 month old cuties, Abby, Andy and Caroline
Rhett 9

no, I can't get the lily pie to work

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lorilou
Fri Mar-30-07 03:15 PM
Member since Jul 18th 2005
394 posts


#269572, "RE: CALLING FOR NEW SECURITY RULES"
In response to Reply # 9

I have nothing against having fun, but many of the posts go way past that point.

And honestly, I think that every member of this board needs to know that that board exists.

My life is not perfect...and I don't think anyone on this board thinks that they have a perfect life either.

If you like TDC that's fine...but leave the members of TC out of it. Stop mocking the posts here - making fun of triplet life is one thing, but making fun of other people is another.

Lori --
Mom to Zac (9/91) and triplets Noah, Karissa & Jazmine (5/98 at 27 weeks)

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jonib
Fri Mar-30-07 03:20 PM
Member since Oct 11th 2005
306 posts


#269574, "RE: CALLING FOR NEW SECURITY RULES"
In response to Reply # 10

Lori

I didn't bring TDC here--you did...every time you bring it up it's going to fuel the fire...

I clearly read over there that it is a spoof forum, I'm sure I'm being spoofed as well...I have to remind myself that this is the internet and feelings can't get hurt on the internet because you really don't have any idea who you are even talking to.

Look at all the problems we have when we find out someone is a faker??? Rather than hurt feelings, just realize that person has a major problem in their life and move on, but that does not mean I want to continue to post/respond to people that don't have triplets or who make up stories because they don't have anything better to do.

My goal is to get advice when I need it, offer some up when I have something useful to add and have some fun in the process. Again, it is the internet and people can not and Should NOT make it their life.

Jonib
16 month old cuties, Abby, Andy and Caroline
Rhett 9

no, I can't get the lily pie to work

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jonib
Fri Mar-30-07 03:30 PM
Member since Oct 11th 2005
306 posts


#269584, "RE: CALLING FOR NEW SECURITY RULES"
In response to Reply # 11

wanted to add...

it's ok to have differing opinions...that's what makes the world go round...
Jonib
16 month old cuties, Abby, Andy and Caroline
Rhett 9

no, I can't get the lily pie to work

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3D Montana Mama
Fri Mar-30-07 03:33 PM
Member since Jul 18th 2005
446 posts


#269589, "RE: CALLING FOR NEW SECURITY RULES"
In response to Reply # 9

Since when is the following funny??:

Joking about abusing and beating your kids?
Joking about drugging your kids?
Joking about locking up your kids?
Joking about neglecting your kids?
Joking about making fun of other innocent TC posters?
Using every obscenity known, because it is just so funny?

Wow. So glad I have a different sense of humor, because TDC is just not funny.

Have your fun if that is what it is, but please stay off of here!

Cynthia
DS-7/99
BBB born 8/04 at 31 4/7 weeks

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jonib
Fri Mar-30-07 03:37 PM
Member since Oct 11th 2005
306 posts


#269591, "RE: CALLING FOR NEW SECURITY RULES"
In response to Reply # 13

Cynthia...you are so sure I'm not just a lurker like Lori Lou....my point is simply live and let live...
why point out stuff you don't like, AND keep bringing it up to others?
When there is something I don't like I stay away..
I don't know who TDC people are so I don't know who is bringing stuff here...but again...if you don't like it you don't have to go...so I was asking Lori Lou to not bring attention to it....
Jonib
16 month old cuties, Abby, Andy and Caroline
Rhett 9

no, I can't get the lily pie to work

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Annie3
Fri Mar-30-07 03:40 PM
Member since Jul 18th 2005
562 posts


#269592, "RE: CALLING FOR NEW SECURITY RULES"
In response to Reply # 13

Why oh why are we rehashing this????

Sorry Cat, I understand your original post and I am confused why all this bickering got into it. It is obvious you have been away for a couple of days and missed some more drama but it seems as though every post about something turns into a TDC vs. TC post and instead of answering the post they start to bring up stuff off the the other board that they accuse of bringing it there, it is all very confusing. I think we need to stick to the topics at hand and go from there, see now I forgot what I was going to respond because it just got me all rattled. Again, I apologize.

Born 6/19/05 @ 32 Weeks
Kylie Mae 2lbs 13oz
Ashby Ray 3lbs 5oz
Eadan Sean 3lbs 2oz

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tripletots98
Fri Mar-30-07 05:25 PM
Member since Jul 18th 2005
1204 posts


#269627, "Here's the thing..."
In response to Reply # 13
Fri Mar-30-07 05:36 PM by tripletots98

It's simple. Do not visit the TDC website, period.

If you had no interest in snakes...would you spend any of your free computer time reading about snakes?

If ham sandwiches repulsed you, would you spend time on line trying come up with new ideas for ham sandwiches?

If you were afraid of clowns, would you join a support group for "Clown Lovers"?

The answer to these 3 questions is "NO"!

So, Why visit TDC if you even think you'll be repulsed by it? Just don't do it!

People are laughing at themselves over there too...does anyone get that?

Move on....

Amy~
Paige, Austin & Hailee - 8yrs
10/29/98 34w1d

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lorilou
Fri Mar-30-07 08:01 PM
Member since Jul 18th 2005
394 posts


#269680, "RE: Here's the thing..."
In response to Reply # 36

You are right. But I do love pizza so I belong to a pizza-lover forum. And I expect that the snake, sandwich and clown forum members would not read my forum and then mock my fellow board members.

Lori --
Mom to Zac (9/91) and triplets Noah, Karissa & Jazmine (5/98 at 27 weeks)

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jonib
Fri Mar-30-07 08:06 PM
Member since Oct 11th 2005
306 posts


#269687, "RE: Here's the thing..."
In response to Reply # 54

>You are right. But I do love pizza so I belong to a
>pizza-lover forum. And I expect that the snake, sandwich and
>clown forum members would not read my forum and then mock my
>fellow board members.
>
>Lori --
>Mom to Zac (9/91) and triplets Noah, Karissa & Jazmine (5/98
>at 27 weeks)

But you bring up tdc every chance you get...kind of like an evangalist railing against porn...he watches it all week so he can preach about how bad it is on Sunday...just can't stop watching....what exactly is the payoff?
Jonib
16 month old cuties, Abby, Andy and Caroline
Rhett 9

no, I can't get the lily pie to work

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tulip
Fri Mar-30-07 03:44 PM
Member since Jul 18th 2005
6116 posts


#269594, "RE: CALLING FOR NEW SECURITY RULES"
In response to Reply # 0

I sent you a couple PM's. I vote FOR security measures and membership rules being implemented & enforced at this forum

Tulip & The Three Amigos
GBG born at 35w5d on December 31, 2002 - Happy New Year's Eve!!!

YES! You *can* breastfeed triplets!!!

I am a Velveteen Rabbit, and the birth, love, kisses & magic that are my children has made me Real.

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Prairie3
Fri Mar-30-07 03:50 PM
Member since Jul 18th 2005
771 posts


#269597, "RE: CALLING FOR NEW SECURITY RULES"
In response to Reply # 0

Do we really need security rules? Can't we just all play nice? I think that the mods already have enough to do without being the Internet Triplet Police too.

Yes...there has been some crazy stuff going on lately and I've tried to just not post about it rather than adding to it.

The Triplet Connection is a wonderful resource for information. But it is still the internet which is as varied as Las Vegas. You can find wonderful amazing art there or you can find slime.

I think people forget that and put information out there that is way too personal and then get upset when people steal it or use it against them.
Julie
BGB ~ June 16, 2005 @ 31wks 3 days
Samuel Jonas (3lbs 11oz)
Leona Ruth (3lbs 5oz)
Gabriel Douglas (2lbs 11oz)


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julie123
Fri Mar-30-07 04:09 PM
Member since Jun 13th 2006
558 posts


#269602, "RE: CALLING FOR NEW SECURITY RULES"
In response to Reply # 0

I really think that this whole thing is rediculious. I am personally sick of the fakers, there have been a few identified lately, and then some questionable ones. I haven't been keeping up with much of the drama, but I read some today and am really confused about the validity of some people, well, one in particular. Who do we express those types of concerns too without being hassled with ourselves?

I viewed over on TDC but apparently have to be accepted to see other stuff? My thinking is if i don't like it or if it gets to be too much, it's simple. Just don't go over there. The problem is that it seems to be brought up again and again by the same people who keep saying how bad it is. If we jsut quit talking about it then it will die down
Julie wife to Mark and mom to

Tristan Declan 4lbs 3oz
Cassandra Madison 4lbs 7oz
Ryland Markus 4lbs 2oz
Born on 9/5/06 at 32 weeks 4 days
www.cysticfibrosismaleinfertility.com

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3D Montana Mama
Fri Mar-30-07 04:12 PM
Member since Jul 18th 2005
446 posts


#269603, "RE: CALLING FOR NEW SECURITY RULES"
In response to Reply # 18

Jeff, Janet, and Tiffani have made it perfectly clear. Direct all of your concerns about any posters and their validity directly to them in an email. Their contact information is at the bottom of the front page of TC.

Cynthia
DS-7/99
BBB born 8/04 at 31 4/7 weeks

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julie123
Fri Mar-30-07 04:15 PM
Member since Jun 13th 2006
558 posts


#269604, "RE: CALLING FOR NEW SECURITY RULES"
In response to Reply # 19

ok, thank you. Should I email all 3 or just one of them. I have talked to tiffani before but wasn't sure who is the "in charge" person. I guess I'm too use to the whole military chain of command thing and don't want to do it wrong. Silly military mentality.

Thanks for the info Cynthia.
Julie wife to Mark and mom to

Tristan Declan 4lbs 3oz
Cassandra Madison 4lbs 7oz
Ryland Markus 4lbs 2oz
Born on 9/5/06 at 32 weeks 4 days
www.cysticfibrosismaleinfertility.com

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Laurene
Fri Mar-30-07 04:28 PM
Member since Jul 18th 2005
2169 posts


#269608, "RE: CALLING FOR NEW SECURITY RULES"
In response to Reply # 0

Running security would be a very difficult but very necessary job after the latest developements.

I feel that a pinned topic should be added with a disclosure that all of us are subject to brutal and unneccessary attacks at www.tripletdisconnection.com - OMG! Did I just post that link????? I'm sure they will eat me alive now (although I'm sure they already are...) and I would also like to see a pinned topic with a list of names so that I know who to watch out for - snarky hats and all!
Laurene- Proud mother of six: Janis 26 - attending UCSF for Masters in Critical Care Nursing; Jessica 24 - Graduates in May with RN; Jeremiah 22 - Married and a Diesel/Mechanic Welder with two Assoc degrees



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madmolly
Fri Mar-30-07 04:50 PM
Member since Oct 07th 2005
1410 posts


#269613, "RE: CALLING FOR NEW SECURITY RULES"
In response to Reply # 21
Fri Mar-30-07 05:03 PM by madmolly

Nevermind! No message.
Lea
bgg 1/22/06 @ 28.3 weeks
g 6/04 @ 34 weeks
g 7/99
g 6/97

http://killertomatoandthepeapodsquad.blogspot.com/

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HOWMANY
Fri Mar-30-07 05:13 PM
Member since Jul 18th 2005
840 posts


#269621, "RE: Volunteers?"
In response to Reply # 21

Laurene - So are you voluntering (sp) to help Jeff, Tiff & Janet with this?

It does seem that the non-participants of TDC are the ones who keep bringing the subject up.

I personally cannot beleive that no one her on TC has not had an unkind word or made a joke about something or someone here on TC.

People can have a wicked sense of humor and still be supportive.

Amy
Wife to Jason(pixelpusher)
Mom to Gwynne, Connor, Chloe 11/03/03
25wks 1day

www.caringbridge.org/visit/connorferris

http://lilypie.com>

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Laurene
Fri Mar-30-07 05:17 PM
Member since Jul 18th 2005
2169 posts


#269623, "RE: Volunteers?"
In response to Reply # 30

I would do whatever was asked of me to stop the abuse. I am very anti abuse! wouldn't we all do our part if asked? Is that what your asking? Of course it's us non-participants that are bringing it up, I'm sure the participants don't REALLY want us there. I see no humor in abuse - wicked or supportive.
Laurene- Proud mother of six: Janis 26 - attending UCSF for Masters in Critical Care Nursing; Jessica 24 - Graduates in May with RN; Jeremiah 22 - Married and a Diesel/Mechanic Welder with two Assoc degrees



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Prairie3
Fri Mar-30-07 05:21 PM
Member since Jul 18th 2005
771 posts


#269626, "RE: Volunteers?"
In response to Reply # 32

I think what everyone is trying to say is that being a moderator is a hard, thankless, never-ending VOLUNTEER position. I personally know that I don't have time to do what the mods do. They spend countless hours here. Someday I may have that time when my kiddos are older and not quite so, ummm...busy? LOL!

It's kind of like the American Govt. We may not always like who is in office or how they are doing their job. But they are doing the best they can with the best resources/information they have. They already do so much. I think it's an awful lot to ask them to do more. Isn't just pulling the offending posts good enough?
Julie
BGB ~ June 16, 2005 @ 31wks 3 days
Samuel Jonas (3lbs 11oz)
Leona Ruth (3lbs 5oz)
Gabriel Douglas (2lbs 11oz)


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tulip
Fri Mar-30-07 05:35 PM
Member since Jul 18th 2005
6116 posts


#269629, "RE: Volunteers?"
In response to Reply # 30

Honestly? No, I don't trash people here. I have sometimes questioned if this or that person was a faker or not. However, I haven't cussed anyone out behind their back, mocked them & made fun of them, made up lies about them because it's funny to think about them & their children that way, I don't imagine various sexual scenarios about other people here, and so on. In other words, I don't use other people for my amusement. I respect the inherent dignity of my fellow human beings.

Yes, people can have a sense of humor and be supportive. The line is crossed when you use other people for your amusement. The line is crossed when you say supportive things, but you don't also fully disclose that you are going to use that person's problems or situation and laugh at it & look down on them.

As I've said before. It's one thing to laugh at yourself. It's something else when you laugh at other people.

Tulip & The Three Amigos
GBG born at 35w5d on December 31, 2002 - Happy New Year's Eve!!!

YES! You *can* breastfeed triplets!!!

I am a Velveteen Rabbit, and the birth, love, kisses & magic that are my children has made me Real.

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Triplethefun04
Fri Mar-30-07 05:47 PM
Member since Jul 18th 2005
83 posts


#269634, "RE: Volunteers?"
In response to Reply # 38

Oh that's right....You're perfect! Please pray for the rest of us!

Michelle
(formerly known as bsebllmom9 )

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DebM
Fri Mar-30-07 06:34 PM
Member since Mar 31st 2006
491 posts


#269653, "RE: Volunteers?"
In response to Reply # 40

See - this is the ugly comments that are un-called for. Can't you state your views on things without the snide remarks?

This is a discussion on what is best to keep trouble makers from being able to post. And by trouble makers, I don't mean those with a different opinion but rather those who are purposely doing things to hurt people. Don't you think that would be a good idea? Most people that are sick of this would want more controls in place.

I just can't understand why so many are fussing about better controls on this support board.

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Triplethefun04
Fri Mar-30-07 08:57 PM
Member since Jul 18th 2005
83 posts


#269712, "RE: Volunteers?"
In response to Reply # 42

Exactly the point we've been trying to make. Better controls to keep the drama whores off here and to keep the fakers out, agreed! To let us be real instead of always having to say and advise on the perfect way to do things!

Sunshine and roses aren't the only answers in life!

Michelle
(formerly known as bsebllmom9 )

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sushannah
Fri Mar-30-07 09:01 PM
Member since Jul 18th 2005
221 posts


#269714, "RE: Volunteers?"
In response to Reply # 40
Fri Mar-30-07 09:03 PM by sushannah

She's not perfect, just trying to be a decent person. And it's those kind of comments that are ruining this for EVERYONE.
Sushannah and Stephen

parents to:
Olivia, Maggie, and Sam
born at 31 weeks



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6BlueEyes
Fri Mar-30-07 09:46 PM
Member since Jul 18th 2005
187 posts


#269730, "RE: Volunteers?"
In response to Reply # 30

I have always enjoyed joking about some "characters" on tc with my local triplet mom friends. To me, it always felt like a soap opera and since we didn't know them, we were not really hurting anyone. My feeling is that what you ladies are doing is different, you are posting mean things about members and "ganging up" on people that don't agree with you and/or are considered too perfect by your standards. That is just being mean. Also, many people are going to tdc to see what everyone is saying about them, not because they enjoy the humor or because they are looking to cause problems. If you overhear someone talking about you IRL, wouldn't you listen?

You keep telling everyone to get thicker skin. It is easy to say that when you are the ones being mean and rude to people and have all of your friends laughing with you. I remember quite a few tdc feathers being ruffled when someone has referred to spontaneous triplets as "natural". I also remember one of the originators of tdc actually left tc for quite a while because she felt that people were too mean to a friend of hers. I remember a post that she wrote...blah, blah, blah, can't we all be nice and abide by the rules posted on the homepage. Wow, how the tables have turned.

Kelly
Ben, Jack & Drew 05/28/02
Charlie 07/06/06

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JenniferP
Fri Mar-30-07 04:38 PM
Member since Jul 18th 2005
570 posts


#269610, "RE: CALLING FOR NEW SECURITY RULES"
In response to Reply # 0
Fri Mar-30-07 04:53 PM by JenniferP

I agree, Cat. Something should be done differently with this forum because things have gotten far nastier than I ever recall, and I have been very active on the board since January 2002. Although, believe it or not, now that my boys are in school, I have had even less time to follow TC like I had in the past.

I think posting on the forum should be a benefit offered to people who are paid members of Triplet Connection. It would be public for anyone to read, but to post you would have to be a member. TC membership is only $22 per year, which gets you their wonderful quarterly magazine, AND your money is put to good use supporting the Triplet Connection's other endeavors.

This approach would serve two purposes. 1). More money would be brought to this fantastic organization that has helped so many. 2) If you have to become an official member to post, I believe the moderators would have more "power" to really ban posters that cause too many problems. Plus, the faker/belly guy stuff would become almost non-existent.

If this board is as important to us as we all know it is, we should not have a problem paying the TC membership to participate. I think we can all come up with $22 per year - that is less than 50 cents a week! I fully support Janet and Jeff in whatever they decide.
Jennifer P.
Proud mom of first-round IVF miracles!
Nicholas, Victor, & Jacob
(12/15/00 @ 29 wks)

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jonib
Fri Mar-30-07 04:45 PM
Member since Oct 11th 2005
306 posts


#269611, "RE: CALLING FOR NEW SECURITY RULES"
In response to Reply # 22

I think most of us that post are already members...I also don't think $22.00 is going to stop some of these people who really want to get on and "do damage"..

again I'll go back to saying (I know I"m sounding like a broken record...) but remember it is the internet...ignore what you don't like and join in what you do.

I got pm'd by someone letting me know that continuing to post here was not letting it die (i'm sorry!), but some people get to have their say over and over and some of us are cut short when our opinions differ.

Why is TDC such a big deal to people if you don't participate??? Like I said...I'm SURE I'm spoofed over there...so what...I could care less, really!

So instead of making things "tougher" for the board and the moderators, let's just make our skin tougher and then all will be well.
Jonib
16 month old cuties, Abby, Andy and Caroline
Rhett 9

no, I can't get the lily pie to work

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ShanAZ
Fri Mar-30-07 04:51 PM
Member since Oct 11th 2005
702 posts


#269615, "RE: CALLING FOR NEW SECURITY RULES"
In response to Reply # 23

I can't understand why everything keeps going back to the other website. WHO CARES! I've read some of it. Some of the "spoofs", I can actually apply to my kids. My kids have constipation issues. I have kids in therapy. WHO CARES! I have not posted in a while, but lurk often. Again, WHO CARES! Why can't some people move on, let this go, and say WHO CARES!
ggg, 25 weekers
Nov, 2005

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Laurene
Fri Mar-30-07 04:54 PM
Member since Jul 18th 2005
2169 posts


#269616, "RE: CALLING FOR NEW SECURITY RULES"
In response to Reply # 23

As the child of abusive parents and an abusive exH I REFUSE to "make my skin tougher"!!!! Abuse is abuse! And I don't agree - the internet was not invented as a device to abuse, there should still be moral standards and kindness in every faction of human life.
Laurene- Proud mother of six: Janis 26 - attending UCSF for Masters in Critical Care Nursing; Jessica 24 - Graduates in May with RN; Jeremiah 22 - Married and a Diesel/Mechanic Welder with two Assoc degrees



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ShanAZ
Fri Mar-30-07 05:05 PM
Member since Oct 11th 2005
702 posts


#269619, "RE: CALLING FOR NEW SECURITY RULES"
In response to Reply # 27

Maybe I won't understand where you are coming from because I did not have to deal with what you have had to deal with. For that I'm sorry. But, that stuff is fiction. Think of it as a bad movie. My DH and I have completely different ideas about what is funny. He likes Austin Powers and Mr. Bean and I can't find humor in them at all. So I don't watch them. Simple.
ggg, 25 weekers
Nov, 2005

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Laurene
Fri Mar-30-07 05:15 PM
Member since Jul 18th 2005
2169 posts


#269622, "RE: CALLING FOR NEW SECURITY RULES"
In response to Reply # 28

???? - You don't understand the abuse that is going on???? WELL, on the site the members from our family on TC are saying horrid things about people and situations from here and then throwing in a disclaimer that it's in fun? It is a bad movie, or a horror novel, or however you want to count it, but abusive to our members and their "friends" that they have here on this site.

Someone needs to clean up TC. Bottom line. Security measures and warnings about the members is a perfect place to start. Apparantly, nothing is sacred.
Laurene- Proud mother of six: Janis 26 - attending UCSF for Masters in Critical Care Nursing; Jessica 24 - Graduates in May with RN; Jeremiah 22 - Married and a Diesel/Mechanic Welder with two Assoc degrees



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lorilou
Fri Mar-30-07 06:49 PM
Member since Jul 18th 2005
394 posts


#269656, "RE: CALLING FOR NEW SECURITY RULES"
In response to Reply # 28

How is it fiction??? Just about every post on TDC refers either to another post on this board or a member of this board. It's that simple.

Lori --
Mom to Zac (9/91) and triplets Noah, Karissa & Jazmine (5/98 at 27 weeks)

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ShanAZ
Fri Mar-30-07 07:02 PM
Member since Oct 11th 2005
702 posts


#269664, "RE: CALLING FOR NEW SECURITY RULES"
In response to Reply # 43

I was speaking with PP about how she can not let it go because of her past as an abused child/wife. She was hurt and angered because of that and the messages on the other site. I was simply pointing out that it is fiction. Do we really think they beat their kids?
ggg, 25 weekers
Nov, 2005

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3D Montana Mama
Fri Mar-30-07 05:08 PM
Member since Jul 18th 2005
446 posts


#269620, "RE: CALLING FOR NEW SECURITY RULES"
In response to Reply # 27

Laurene,
I couldn't agree more!

As a nurse-midwife specializing in high-risk OB, I have taken care of many children from abusive parents. I have seen kids abused, sexually abused, neglected, drugged, and yes murdered by their parents. I have taken care of women who have used methamphetamine and alcohol during their pregnancies and harmed their babies for life. I have seen babies die directly as a result of this abuse. I have been to the funerals of these babies and cried and raged against the injustice.

Anyone who has dealt with these things in real life could never, EVER joke about it, because IT IS NOT FUNNY. It is real for way too many people struggling in lives such as these.

Cynthia
DS-7/99
BBB born 8/04 at 31 4/7 weeks

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HOWMANY
Fri Mar-30-07 05:20 PM
Member since Jul 18th 2005
840 posts


#269625, "RE: CALLING FOR NEW SECURITY RULES"
In response to Reply # 29

Nope! Sorry have to disagree.

I have myself been abused by a boyfriend and suffered abuse from a drug addict father and emotional abuse from both my mom and dad. Humor gets you through it. I joke about beating my kids. Would I ever do it?? H*LL NO! I have enough therapy bills as it is. My kids don't need that.

Is it a situation to make light off?? NOt if it is acutally happening. If it is not then take it for what it is.

Frankly I have a few times in public said I was going to beat my kids for not behaving because people are so anti-spanking I love the reactions. (wicked sense of humor)

Amy
Wife to Jason(pixelpusher)
Mom to Gwynne, Connor, Chloe 11/03/03
25wks 1day

www.caringbridge.org/visit/connorferris

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tulip
Fri Mar-30-07 05:19 PM
Member since Jul 18th 2005
6116 posts


#269624, "RE: CALLING FOR NEW SECURITY RULES"
In response to Reply # 27

"...there should still be moral standards and kindness in every faction of human life."

I agree. Unfortunately, we'll never be able to agree to a set of morals. Used to be that the unwritten rule of "community standards" was the only thing necessary to govern neighborhoods. The internet has changed all that. Just like we have Munchausen by Internet, nowadays we apparently have Mean Girls by Internet.

Tulip & The Three Amigos
GBG born at 35w5d on December 31, 2002 - Happy New Year's Eve!!!

YES! You *can* breastfeed triplets!!!

I am a Velveteen Rabbit, and the birth, love, kisses & magic that are my children has made me Real.

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SunshineAnn
Fri Mar-30-07 07:51 PM
Member since Jul 18th 2005
708 posts


#269675, "RE: CALLING FOR NEW SECURITY RULES"
In response to Reply # 33

You got it!!!!!

"Where'd you get that skirt, it's great!" (Smiling sweetly)
"It was my mom's."
(When girl leaves)..."That's the ugliest skirt I've ever seen."

I think people not on TDC keep bringing it up is because we really don't want to associate with the ones who are slam us on one side then come up and smile in our face but you know it's such a load! And the kicker is, now others are joining there and are giving out their TC names (whichi is great, let's me know who to avoid). But the joke will be on them because they will get overun with losers.
Ann


http://lilypie.com>

http://lilypie.com>

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alimae
Fri Mar-30-07 07:54 PM
Member since Oct 13th 2006
37 posts


#269676, "RE: CALLING FOR NEW SECURITY RULES"
In response to Reply # 33

Tulip,
I believe what you are referring to is internet bullying and it is a widespread problem among teens these days. Leads to depression, suicide, etc. I would like to think that adults would refrain from such destructive behavior simply for their entertainment. Apparently not so. What happened earlier today is unacceptable. It is one thing to disagree with someone and engage in lively debate. It is quite another to deliberately hurt someone. The mocking of members on TDC is absolutely unacceptable. It is not in good fun, it is cruel. TDC members get a good laugh at the expense of others. How juvenile. This behavior is not acceptable in society and should not be condoned in internet communities either. It really boils to personal values and morals. Uh, oh I am on my elitist high horse. Oh well. I have witnessed this unravel and have refrained from comment, but after Anon pulled that stunt today I can no longer bite my tongue. TDC members, if your children behaved in this manner, how would you feel? I doubt you would like it. I know that I would be horrified to know that my child treated other people this way!!!

Alice

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Triplethefun04
Fri Mar-30-07 08:54 PM
Member since Jul 18th 2005
83 posts


#269711, "RE: CALLING FOR NEW SECURITY RULES"
In response to Reply # 51

I don't see anywhere how you can ASSume that anon was a TDC member...where's your proof??

Michelle
(formerly known as bsebllmom9 )

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AngelP
Fri Mar-30-07 04:50 PM
Member since Jul 18th 2005
1180 posts


#269614, "RE: CALLING FOR NEW SECURITY RULES"
In response to Reply # 22

I totally agree with the needed security rules. Jeff asked about input a few weeks ago about changes that people would recommend. I'm sure several have responded, but then I'm sure this forum is last thing they are dealing with after Janet's mother passed away.

Things have really out of hand. I have been coming here since I was pregnant in 1998, and I don't remember anything like this. I do agree that perhaps it is time to make it a forum for only those that are actually members. It won't stop all the bickering and nonsense, but I'm sure it would help tremendously.

It is very upsetting to hear that others are making fun of people's comments on the TC. Where do you find the time, and is that really something we want to be teaching our kids...let's spend our time on the internet making fun of others? True it is the internet, but why can't we be more productive with our time than making fun of others.



Angel (mom to Justin, Andrew, Brandon 7 yrs, Angie 13 yrs)

Help fight prematurity and save the lives of babies! Visit: www.walkamerica.org/PiechotaFamily

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Mom2aej
Fri Mar-30-07 05:34 PM
Member since Jul 18th 2005
152 posts


#269628, "RE: CALLING FOR NEW SECURITY RULES"
In response to Reply # 22

>I think posting on the forum should be a benefit offered to
>people who are paid members of Triplet Connection. It would
>be public for anyone to read, but to post you would have to be
>a member. TC membership is only $22 per year, which gets you
>their wonderful quarterly magazine, AND your money is put to
>good use supporting the Triplet Connection's other endeavors.
>
>
>

This is pretty much what happend over at the MOST about 7/8 years ago. I would not be surprised if TC went this route. Its sad that an open form has to be cut off this way but if that is what its going to take than so be it.

Than I gues those who want and exclusively triplet or more board will have their wish and all the others who have been so supportive will be left out.

I also agree that there is no humor in the other board. I understand why you all did but you did but I hope I've tought my children better than that. I would be extremly unhappy with them and they would loose computer privliages if I cought them doing what appears to be happening on the other board. (For the record I don't lurk, I looked at it once or twice and that was enough for me. I have better things to waste my time on.)

Mom2aej
Amelia, Emily & Jarrett 4/9/99

"Just when you get a handle on life... It changes."

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JenniferP
Fri Mar-30-07 07:21 PM
Member since Jul 18th 2005
570 posts


#269671, "RE: CALLING FOR NEW SECURITY RULES"
In response to Reply # 37

I don't think the board participation would have to be limited to parents of triplet & more, any more than it is limited to that now. Anyone who wants to support the Triplet Connection with a membership is welcome to do so. If an aunt or a grandma or multiples, or someone with twins plus another child 10 months believes TC has important help to offer via the organization in general and/or the Forum, they should be welcome to participate. We have many "non traditional" posters on the board now (and have many in the past!) who respect the group for what it is, and who get AND give a lot of help and support here. Janet and Jeff have always made it clear that this is not to be an "exclusive" site, just one that focuses on the trials and tribulations and joys of raising multiples.

As for the fear that someone would be unable to participate because of finances, I am sure Janet and Jeff would work with them in any way they can. They are the owners of the board, and they can decide on exceptions like that and no one needs to know.

As the Membership Coordinator for our local group, I always recommend that new moms come here to check out the forum. I just hope if they have been here lately, they have been able to look past the nastiness of a few threads and see all the great support this board has to offer. I believe this board is an invaluable resource to all parents of multiples, especially those who are pregnant or in their first 5 years of raising their multiples. I sincerely hope that a few abrasive and insensitive people aren't allowed to destroy that for everyone else, because the majority of TC posters are kind, considerate, and compassionate human beings.
Jennifer P.
Proud mom of first-round IVF miracles!
Nicholas, Victor, & Jacob
(12/15/00 @ 29 wks)

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Catw3kittens
Fri Mar-30-07 05:40 PM
Member since Jul 18th 2005
3587 posts


#269632, "RE: CALLING FOR NEW SECURITY RULES"
In response to Reply # 0

I don't disagree with the concept of making this a "members only" site as reflected by a paid membership. However, if it ever results in someone being barred from joining solely because of finances, that would be a shame.

What I am proposing is that anyone who makes a vicious attack on another poster would be given a stern warning and any subsequent misbehavior would result in their being barred from any further posting activity. This is workable because there are already security measures in place to capture the identities of folks who have attempted to sign up under a different i.d.

I had no idea that things had become so completely vicious here. I guess that's part of the blessing of having my business take a serious upswing. But the problem with ignoring the viciousness is that we are not simply corrupting this website and its viability. Instead, we are fostering a far more aggressive attitude and behavior, and this is part of what we are seeing in our society and in our children. We start by making vicious public attacks on one person on the internet, and I'm shocked to see others jumping in on the side of a person who has made a horrendous attack on another person. To me, there would never be any way that I would run in to join a public attack of someone -- but, people are becoming emboldened by "pack mentality" that is apparently being fostered in another arena.

This has serious social implications since it is furthering behaviors that are not acceptable. I'm not sure where all of this ends.

I gave myself some "down time" today and wanted to be online at TC. I've been seriously disappointed by everything that I've seen and heard here today. So, I'm going to do what some other people have suggested should be the proper response -- I'm going to ignore what I don't like by signing off now. The unfortunate thing is, however, that if everyone makes this same decision, there is no forum.

The proposal for further security rules is an intermediate recommendation to try to prevent that from coming to fruition.

I hope everyone has a good day. I've got calls to make before I can leave the office and a few other documents to work on.

God bless you every one.


Cat w/3 Kittens
Caidan, Carina and Caeleigh
Born at 31 weeks, 1/8/04.
It is better to have loved and lost, than never to have loved at all. In memory of Carina, who was greatly loved.

http://b3.lilypie.com/bDA

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stephkessler
Fri Mar-30-07 07:18 PM
Member since Nov 13th 2006
145 posts


#269668, "RE: CALLING FOR NEW SECURITY RULES"
In response to Reply # 41

First, I have to say that I am a member of TDC as well as TC. I post in both places. Second, the whole reason I went over to TDC was because of all the crap going on here. Over there I can post questions to serious issues and get real answers and I can post just to be silly and get silly answers. I have a very tough shell and can take a joke. That is all it is A JOKE! The website is all about blowing off steam and having fun. Things here are ALWAYS too serious. Very seldom is there something here that can be laughed at and be thought funny. And yes, I get it, there are a lot of things about a HOM pregnancy and raising HOM's that is not funny but has it ever occured to anyone that maybe this is the way that some deal with the stresses of those situations. By poking fun and having a good laugh. If you don't like it then don't go there. Who cares if you are the one being spoofed or not. There are members of TDC that are spoofed. If I am not welcome here just because I cannot take the seriousness of everything and need to release a little stress and have a good laugh by going there then I don't think this is a group I want to be part of anyway.

I guess what it comes down to is if you don't like TDC then stop posting about it and putting up the link so that everyone sees it. Let it go.
Stephanie
GBG Due 6/11/2007








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JenniferP
Fri Mar-30-07 07:36 PM
Member since Jul 18th 2005
570 posts


#269672, "RE: CALLING FOR NEW SECURITY RULES"
In response to Reply # 45

Hi Stephanie,

I agree that if you don't like a site, don't go there. I also agree that everyone has their own sense of humor, and something funny to one person is NOT to someone else. But I think the problems here go beyond the mere existence of TDC. And maybe the other problems are what brought TDC into existence in the first place. Whatver. What bothers me most are the personal attacks and downright nastiness posted here on TC. There are obviously people here who flat out can't stand other members, and they can't resist the opportunity to take a poke at them. I guess I just can not imagine talking to anyone like I have seen people "talk" to people here lately. Just because we are on the internet does not mean we are just words on a screen. There are real people behind these keyboards with real feelings, and I think sometimes people forget that. Or maybe they just don't care, and they would treat someone like that in real life?? I don't know which it is, but it is sad to think there are people out there who have no problem publicly hurting other people.
Jennifer P.
Proud mom of first-round IVF miracles!
Nicholas, Victor, & Jacob
(12/15/00 @ 29 wks)

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stephkessler
Fri Mar-30-07 08:13 PM
Member since Nov 13th 2006
145 posts


#269690, "RE: CALLING FOR NEW SECURITY RULES"
In response to Reply # 48

I agree that it is sad that there are people who have no problem hurting other people but my point is that it is not just TDC hurting those people. It is also certain people here on TC hurting people just because they have a different point of view than them. You are right, the problems here go way beyond the existence of TDC because they have gone on a lot longer than TDC has been around.
Stephanie
GBG Due 6/11/2007








www.myspace.com/stephkessler12679

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Tasha
Fri Mar-30-07 09:34 PM
Member since Jul 18th 2005
1243 posts


#269724, "RE: CALLING FOR NEW SECURITY RULES"
In response to Reply # 58

Very true. I know people are shocked and their sensibilities have been offended over this other board. But people this is not a new concept at all. Nothing being said or done over there hasn’t been going on for years already. It has just been going on in emails, yahoo groups, phone calls, and multiples clubs meetings, etc. I have heard many a comment at meetings or received emails like what I have read on that other board personally in my 6 years here. And I have seen some comments in direct contradiction to what people are now saying on both sides of the fence. The only difference this time is someone posted a link to it. Go, don’t go. But don’t be so indignant like this is a new concept and they are the first people to ever do it. Don’t tell me you have never rolled your eyes at a post, told your spouse/significant other “OMG, you have to read this”, or shot an email to a friend from the board saying, “is she smoking a crack pipe or what?” I have and I will admit it. Does that make me a bitch? Well yeah, but not because of that.
Tasha
Julia, Megan & Alex 7/00 at 30 weeks
Abby 12/02

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jonib
Fri Mar-30-07 09:40 PM
Member since Oct 11th 2005
306 posts


#269725, "RE: CALLING FOR NEW SECURITY RULES"
In response to Reply # 77

tasha..

will you be my new bff???

Thank you for bringing some sense here...very well said!

now ladies (and I use that term loosely) can't we all just say good night?

I'll start...

nighty night
Jonib
16 month old cuties, Abby, Andy and Caroline
Rhett 9

no, I can't get the lily pie to work

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Triplethefun04
Fri Mar-30-07 09:43 PM
Member since Jul 18th 2005
83 posts


#269727, "RE: CALLING FOR NEW SECURITY RULES"
In response to Reply # 77


Michelle
(formerly known as bsebllmom9 )

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DebM
Fri Mar-30-07 07:49 PM
Member since Mar 31st 2006
491 posts


#269674, "RE: CALLING FOR NEW SECURITY RULES"
In response to Reply # 45

"Who cares if you are the one being spoofed or not. There are members of TDC that are spoofed."

That's the whole issue - we do care. If you want to make fun of each other, go ahead. You are expecting it because you joined TDC and knew what it was about.

But for other people who don't participate and agree with TDC to get singled out and made fun of, that's when it goes too far.

Don't you all see that? How can you justify what you're doing? How can you say "it's ok to put people down and pick on others"?
This is more than just the internet. Even though we just know each other by user names, we have become friends.

I've said before and I'll say it again - I have no problem with TDC when you all are joking around. If that's what you want to do, fine. But please stop making fun of posts and people from this site.





Luke- 4lb,12oz
Wade - 3lb,4oz
Zoe - 5lb,2oz
Born at 34 weeks








http://www.totsites.com/tot/ourtrio

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jonib
Fri Mar-30-07 08:00 PM
Member since Oct 11th 2005
306 posts


#269678, "RE: CALLING FOR NEW SECURITY RULES"
In response to Reply # 49

I'll say what I've said all along...

don't like another site...don't go there...

very, very simple people...what do you not get???

When I say get "tough skin" I'm not talking about someone that has been "physically abused" taking it...come on...that is such a stretch you have to laugh at yourself...yes, it is still the internet...you still don't know for sure who you are talking to. And if you take stuff THAT seriously then you must be lacking other things in your life. Start there.

post/respond, don't post/don't respond Guess What...YOUR CHOICE!! Isn't that neat??? We all get to decide what we want to do. Easy.
Jonib
16 month old cuties, Abby, Andy and Caroline
Rhett 9

no, I can't get the lily pie to work

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DebM
Fri Mar-30-07 08:05 PM
Member since Mar 31st 2006
491 posts


#269685, "RE: CALLING FOR NEW SECURITY RULES"
In response to Reply # 53

"We all get to decide what we want to do. Easy"

It's very sad that some decide to make fun of others".
These people are the ones lacking something in life.

Too sad.



Luke- 4lb,12oz
Wade - 3lb,4oz
Zoe - 5lb,2oz
Born at 34 weeks








http://www.totsites.com/tot/ourtrio

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ZwickJB
Fri Mar-30-07 08:16 PM
Member since Sep 21st 2006
168 posts


#269692, "RE: CALLING FOR NEW SECURITY RULES"
In response to Reply # 56
Fri Mar-30-07 08:19 PM by ZwickJB

I am not lacking anything in life...I am just so messed up that I LAUGH at life, people and many other things...I would be the one that would laugh my butt off if I saw you fall flat on your face!
People do not fail...they just give up!
~unknown~



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julytrips
Fri Mar-30-07 08:20 PM
Member since Mar 25th 2007
22 posts


#269695, "RE: CALLING FOR NEW SECURITY RULES"
In response to Reply # 59

and that's something to be proud of? right.
Joyce
GGG 7/6/00
B 5/24/05

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jonib
Fri Mar-30-07 08:22 PM
Member since Oct 11th 2005
306 posts


#269697, "RE: CALLING FOR NEW SECURITY RULES"
In response to Reply # 60

>and that's something to be proud of? right.

not taking herself too seriously is how I read that...we could all learn from that
Jonib
16 month old cuties, Abby, Andy and Caroline
Rhett 9

no, I can't get the lily pie to work

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ZwickJB
Fri Mar-30-07 08:23 PM
Member since Sep 21st 2006
168 posts


#269700, "RE: CALLING FOR NEW SECURITY RULES"
In response to Reply # 60

Really yea...I just have that much humor...hell I laugh at myself when I fall...it just makes it better when it is someone else...
People do not fail...they just give up!
~unknown~



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DebM
Fri Mar-30-07 08:21 PM
Member since Mar 31st 2006
491 posts


#269696, "RE: CALLING FOR NEW SECURITY RULES"
In response to Reply # 59

That's the difference between you and I. I would be the one helping her up and asking if she was ok.


Luke- 4lb,12oz
Wade - 3lb,4oz
Zoe - 5lb,2oz
Born at 34 weeks








http://www.totsites.com/tot/ourtrio

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ZwickJB
Fri Mar-30-07 08:23 PM
Member since Sep 21st 2006
168 posts


#269701, "RE: CALLING FOR NEW SECURITY RULES"
In response to Reply # 61

while you were laughing.....we all cant be ms. nice all the time
People do not fail...they just give up!
~unknown~



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jonib
Fri Mar-30-07 08:29 PM
Member since Oct 11th 2005
306 posts


#269703, "RE: CALLING FOR NEW SECURITY RULES"
In response to Reply # 65

call it what you will...tough skin, sense of humor, some of us have more than others...BUT when you turn the internet into a place that you feel can "abuse you" "hurt your feelings" "keep you from trusting"...blah blah blah...THAT is flat out crazy weird...you need to re-examine what is important in your life.

From where I sit I say if your feelings are caught up in the online postings of people who don't know you, you have a problem.

If you can't take something or don't like something AND you don't care about it...you walk away. Simple.
Jonib
16 month old cuties, Abby, Andy and Caroline
Rhett 9

no, I can't get the lily pie to work

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julytrips
Fri Mar-30-07 08:25 PM
Member since Mar 25th 2007
22 posts


#269702, "RE: CALLING FOR NEW SECURITY RULES"
In response to Reply # 61

Really? Why do we even bother? They could care less and enjoy this back and forth stuff. I still don't get why come here?
Joyce
GGG 7/6/00
B 5/24/05

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Tasha
Fri Mar-30-07 09:45 PM
Member since Jul 18th 2005
1243 posts


#269729, "RE: CALLING FOR NEW SECURITY RULES"
In response to Reply # 59

Earlier this week it was so nice out Abby and I went early to get in the car line at school to pick the kids up. I brought a soccer ball and she and I were playing in the field next to the cars. Another mom waiting started cheering us on/teasing my fat butt running around the field. Abby kept tripping me and I turned to her laughing saying I was going to fall on my face yet. Her response, "and I will fall on mine laughing at you if you do". I should have gotten her name and number.
Tasha
Julia, Megan & Alex 7/00 at 30 weeks
Abby 12/02

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SunshineAnn
Fri Mar-30-07 07:54 PM
Member since Jul 18th 2005
708 posts


#269677, "RE: CALLING FOR NEW SECURITY RULES"
In response to Reply # 45

It's the internet, as the TDCers have told us time and time again, you can post any link you like, or anything for that matter, anywhere. Can't be double standards. If you think you get great answers there, my question is, WHY then are you here too? If it's so bad here, why not just not come back? I don't get it.
Ann


http://lilypie.com>

http://lilypie.com>

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stephkessler
Fri Mar-30-07 08:22 PM
Member since Nov 13th 2006
145 posts


#269698, "RE: CALLING FOR NEW SECURITY RULES"
In response to Reply # 52

I am here also because I have made some "friends" here as well as made some "friends" on TDC. I have never personally posted anything ridiculing someone else on TDC but I will not judge those who have. Yes, I may have laughed at some of the things said and I will not apologize for it but in the end what it all boils down to is your personal sense of humor. Just as some people would watch Richard Pryor or Eddie Murphy and think it was the funniest thing they have ever heard and others would get up and leave, well, if you don;t like TDC then get up and leave. I agree it is not for everyone but some find it amusing. And, not everything posted on there is a spoof of what is going on here.
Stephanie
GBG Due 6/11/2007








www.myspace.com/stephkessler12679

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Triplethefun04
Fri Mar-30-07 09:01 PM
Member since Jul 18th 2005
83 posts


#269713, "RE: CALLING FOR NEW SECURITY RULES"
In response to Reply # 45

>First, I have to say that I am a member of TDC as well as TC.
> I post in both places. Second, the whole reason I went over
>to TDC was because of all the crap going on here. Over there
>I can post questions to serious issues and get real answers
>and I can post just to be silly and get silly answers. I have
>a very tough shell and can take a joke. That is all it is A
>JOKE! The website is all about blowing off steam and having
>fun. Things here are ALWAYS too serious. Very seldom is
>there something here that can be laughed at and be thought
>funny. And yes, I get it, there are a lot of things about a
>HOM pregnancy and raising HOM's that is not funny but has it
>ever occured to anyone that maybe this is the way that some
>deal with the stresses of those situations. By poking fun and
>having a good laugh. If you don't like it then don't go
>there. Who cares if you are the one being spoofed or not.
>There are members of TDC that are spoofed. If I am not
>welcome here just because I cannot take the seriousness of
>everything and need to release a little stress and have a good
>laugh by going there then I don't think this is a group I want
>to be part of anyway.
>
>I guess what it comes down to is if you don't like TDC then
>stop posting about it and putting up the link so that everyone
>sees it. Let it go.


Michelle
(formerly known as bsebllmom9 )

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Tracey
Fri Mar-30-07 07:19 PM
Member since Jul 18th 2005
1945 posts


#269669, "RE: CALLING FOR NEW SECURITY RULES"
In response to Reply # 0

Haven't read any of the posts, but just got a crazy image of airport security with our TC documentation authorizing us to post!


Tracey

Michael (10)
Francesca (9)
Matthew, Alexis & Gabrielle (7)
Torunn (Norwegian DD,19)
Johannes (upcoming German DS,15)

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Nikki1979
Fri Mar-30-07 08:02 PM
Member since Jul 18th 2005
152 posts


#269681, "RE: CALLING FOR NEW SECURITY RULES"
In response to Reply # 0

I guess i must be missing post that get deleted. I know lots of nastiness has been going on and ive been here since i was about 9 weeks pg. Ive never seen anything of the likes that have been going on lately. Its truely a shame. Im all for added security and everything but if it came down to having to pay for a subscription i would probably have to leave. I LOVE this site I hope everything gets worked out.. and as for TDC. what the heck is it exactly?!?! Ive never heard of it before

Nikki
Single mom to
Deegan 2lbs 10oz
Seth 2lbs 2oz
Xander 2lbs 6oz
My little miracles born on Easter Sunday, March 27th, 2005 at 29 weeks 2 days

http://lilypie.com> http://b2.lilypie.com/mo

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madmolly
Fri Mar-30-07 08:34 PM
Member since Oct 07th 2005
1410 posts


#269704, "RE: CALLING FOR NEW SECURITY RULES"
In response to Reply # 0
Fri Mar-30-07 08:34 PM by madmolly

Are you guys still at it??? LOL! Seriously? Ya'll are gettin' played by Lorilou!!! She knew EXACTLY what she was doing.

Are you happy now??? Good Grief!
Lea
bgg 1/22/06 @ 28.3 weeks
g 6/04 @ 34 weeks
g 7/99
g 6/97

http://killertomatoandthepeapodsquad.blogspot.com/

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HOWMANY
Fri Mar-30-07 08:45 PM
Member since Jul 18th 2005
840 posts


#269709, "RE: CALLING FOR NEW SECURITY RULES"
In response to Reply # 68

It's like a train wreck and everbody has to stop and stare!

Zyxt!!!

I got the last word!

Amy
Wife to Jason(pixelpusher)
Mom to Gwynne, Connor, Chloe 11/03/03
25wks 1day

www.caringbridge.org/visit/connorferris

http://lilypie.com>

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lorilou
Fri Mar-30-07 09:18 PM
Member since Jul 18th 2005
394 posts


#269719, "RE: CALLING FOR NEW SECURITY RULES"
In response to Reply # 68

Help me out Lea...what exactly was I doing?

Lori --
Mom to Zac (9/91) and triplets Noah, Karissa & Jazmine (5/98 at 27 weeks)

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jonib
Fri Mar-30-07 09:30 PM
Member since Oct 11th 2005
306 posts


#269721, "RE: CALLING FOR NEW SECURITY RULES"
In response to Reply # 75

I'll tell you
you posted the link and got this whole ball rolling...
can't stay away from it..
Jonib
16 month old cuties, Abby, Andy and Caroline
Rhett 9

no, I can't get the lily pie to work

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lorilou
Fri Mar-30-07 09:41 PM
Member since Jul 18th 2005
394 posts


#269726, "RE: CALLING FOR NEW SECURITY RULES"
In response to Reply # 76

I did not post the original link. That was posted last week by someone other than me. Someone asked what TDC was and I answered -- simple.

Why can't I post the link to your wonderful site? Is there something to be ashamed of? Do you have something to hide? You must since you are using a different username. And I believe that you all get personal satisfaction every time you see it mentioned here. Otherwise why don't you make it a private forum.

There are quite a few of us here who feel the same way. I have gotten many private messages today from people who agree with me. Many of them are frightened to post because they do not want to become your next "victim". Is that how you want the members of this forum to feel...scared to post because they don't want people to make fun of them??

Don't worry, I'm not reading TDC - post anything you like about me. I've had more than enough of your so-called humor.


Lori --
Mom to Zac (9/91) and triplets Noah, Karissa & Jazmine (5/98 at 27 weeks)

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jonib
Fri Mar-30-07 09:45 PM
Member since Oct 11th 2005
306 posts


#269728, "RE: CALLING FOR NEW SECURITY RULES"
In response to Reply # 79

you brought it up again...the only internet "victims" are the one's Keith Hanson from Dateline NBC protects from online predators...spare me...
ou assume I'm a participating member of TDC...I simply don't like the "victimization" term being thrown around..it's ridiculous and you keep making it so by your constant obsession with a site you don't want to have anything to do with. Re-read your own posts if you can't remember.

I already said nighty night...
Jonib
16 month old cuties, Abby, Andy and Caroline
Rhett 9

no, I can't get the lily pie to work

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Triplethefun04
Fri Mar-30-07 09:06 PM
Member since Jul 18th 2005
83 posts


#269716, "RE: CALLING FOR NEW SECURITY RULES"
In response to Reply # 0

TO you all! To both sides of the coin!



Michelle
(formerly known as bsebllmom9 )

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